Narc Arrogance
Narc Arrogance
Did anyone else get this? I am processing so much at the moment and one of the things that has just slapped me around the face today is the total and utter arrogance of an N. I realise that I need to let this go, but again, am getting so angry and want to retaliate, so am posting here instead.
When I am remembering some of the things he said, which I think is healthy as it is constantly providing me with lightbulbs....I am insensed by the arrogance of the man. I was totally insensed by it then too and that is when I started to stand up to him, challenge him and ultimately see through it all. I think some of these things you will relate to, even bring a smidgen of laughter.
He used to strut around like he was the most important person on the planet, again N to a tee!! Omnipotency is a common trait, I understand that. There are so many examples I would run out of post space listing them. But here are some of the top 10:
1. "I deserve 100%, I want someone who respects me" and when I challenged that he didn't demonstrate respect to me he would say "respect is earnt, you need to learn that"
2. "When are you going to realise that it's all about how you treat people?" "At some point in life you will realise that you can not continually blame the men" - OMG? Really?
3. "If you have manners, I will let you in" - after locking me out of our room on holiday after I had asked him, calmly, not to speak to me like a child.
4. "It must be great to have a man who is all over you?" - sex pest more like!
5. "Lunch would have been ready an hour ago if I had been cooking it"
6. "I am a man of great honour, integrity and honesty, I pride myself on it"
7. "You need to learn to rise above things, normal women do not behave the way you do, there is NO justification for your behaviour"
8. "My boss is an asshole (and everyone before that), he is clearly threatened by me"
9. "You need to understand that you have me, 100%, so stop all the remarks and behaviour" - this on a romantic weekend away 4 weeks before Discard.
10. "I am putting the children first, that is what a good parent does" - meanwhile has a 3 year old he has never met, has made no effort to see.
His 2 girls think the sun shines out of his arse too...the last weekend he was telling his daughter that he would leave and I overheard....she responded "That's my Daddy!!! Oh Daddy, she will miss us when we've gone!" - scarey.....the arrogance is in them too.
I know that I should be letting all of this go but I so struggle with the injustice of it all.....it's so wrong how he treated me and my kids, the total covert manipulation and NLP. So so wrong.
Lucky, this is all so true.
oh my god they talk to us
Yep - said during an argument
Of course Kitty.... all your
#3 ...has me cringing. so
It`s so wierd how they`re so alike and we`re so different.
LOL
Bald, fat,bloated tick
Think we all
Lucky,
Reason
Lucky
OMG
lucky escape
The other thing he used to
tootsgee he used to say that
oh my ... i think i remember
Same guy different
Entitled to the Core
They are all like that. Be
His Arrogance
Arrogant body language
the shit defo did the haughty
Well ladies
My N used to always tell me I
I DID check his phone
mine used to say that too
Now that's classic! "Hey,
It's healing
Sounds familiar...