This is NOT LOVE
This is NOT LOVE
I wrote this list after reading what Goldie wrote about 'what's NOT love':
ABUSE IS NOT LOVE, obsession is not love, addiction is not love, sex alone; is not love.
Sex is sex and love is love. http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2012/11/12/people-treat-us-way-we-allow-...
I hope you all will add more to the list I made, I'm sure you have examples like these too...
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1. Making cruel sadistic 'jokes' is NOT LOVE
* Saying that he is going to rip off my skin and torture me, is NOT LOVE (it was 'just a joke, Alissa!')
* Saying that he is going to cut off my (*****) and sew my lips together, is NOT LOVE ( 'just a joke, Alissa!')
* Saying that he is going to stuff my head in the toilet until I suffocate, is NOT LOVE ('just a joke, Alissa!')
2. Yelling at me to 'go away!' is NOT LOVE
3. Greeting my body first by touching me in intimate places right away is NOT LOVE
4. Leaving me alone after sex is NOT LOVE
5. Suggesting to go upstairs and have sex, even when I'm crying and upset about everything, is NOT LOVE
6. Pinching me hard in my legs and continuing to do so when I say it hurts, is NOT LOVE
7. Forcing himself inside of me while I tell him to stop, is NOT LOVE
8. Giving the silent treatment to me, is NOT LOVE
9. Blaming me for everything (while I tried to be very good!), is NOT LOVE
10. Ignoring my emails and lying that he is busy, is NOT LOVE
11. Telling me to have no expectations of him, is NOT LOVE
12. Wanting to ejaculate on my back, is NOT LOVE
13. Wanting to ejaculate in my face, is NOT LOVE
14. Always asking for nude pictures, is NOT LOVE
15. Going on a vacation without saying goodbye, is NOT LOVE
16. Getting mad when I feel sad about it all, is NOT LOVE
17. Not responding to my 'I miss you, I love you, you're special to me', is NOT LOVE
18. Making me walk on egg shells , is NOT LOVE
19. Forgetting my birthday, is NOT LOVE
20. Lovebombing me and then going quiet on me again, is NOT LOVE
21. Calling me Porn Alissa, is NOT LOVE (again, it was 'just a joke')
22. Constantly hot/ cold/ hot/ cold, is NOT LOVE
23. Always ending it by saying 'it's not going to work', is NOT LOVE
24. Ignoring my boundaries, is NOT LOVE
25. Putting pressure on me all the time, is NOT LOVE
26. Always wanting quickies, is NOT LOVE
27. Being ok with having quickies only, is NOT LOVE
28. Touching me aggressively and walking away (all within a matter of 5 minutes) , is NOT LOVE
29. Telling me to wear no undies and being annoyed when I don't obey, is NOT LOVE
30. Telling me that he has absolutely no troubles over ending it, is NOT LOVE
31. Saying that he sleeps perfectly fine at night after arguments, is NOT LOVE
32. Refusing to make things ok after a fight as soon as possible , is NOT LOVE
33. Telling me that he wants us to make a 'smeary mess' (sex), is NOT LOVE
34. Staying away from our email account and not emailing me for days and days, is NOT LOVE
35. Telling me that he is pleased when I obey him when he tells me 'go away', is NOT LOVE
36. Sometimes NOT giving me a drink when he's having a drink, is NOT LOVE
37. Constantly talking about sex/ masturbation/ horniness, is NOT LOVE
38. Showing inconsistent behavior, is NOT LOVE
39. F*cking with my mind, is NOT LOVE
40. Punishing me for doing everything wrong, is NOT LOVE
41. Always changing the 'rules' , is NOT LOVE
Alissa-
So sad isn't it... yes the
:(
No it's not love at all
42. Making you feel like you
43. Hurting you sexually and
Really upsetting to read all of these.....
Ditto
Alissa, Thank you so much for this post!
Oh Cassia.... What an
Thank you Alissa : ))
Thank you so much for your
Omg....I hate him!!!!!!
Lol, Sickofhim -
You are welcome. Glad it
Just give me a date and time.
Lmao!
Cassia my heart goes out to
bgirl, that is so sweet, thank you so much : )))
Compulsive cheating is NOT
So do you , Laci!!! Much
Calling me pathetic
My N said that too.. that I
Great post, Alissa!
That's all so mean and
Thanks Alissa....& this
Ugh "don't hate the player,
Oh for sure...& they love to
SOH
Yup, game over. I have