Please Help... Need advice!
Please Help... Need advice!
If anyone has read my story... My N will not spend time with me. I have seen him only once in the last fifteen months now. We only live three hours apart. He texts me everyday now that we have reconciled but is now falling back into his old patterns of only wanting to talk about sex. Everytime he brings it up I try to change the subject by asking him how he is doing. Today, I just couldn't take it anymore and I told him how I felt. This is how the conversation went (sorry so graphic)...
Him: How's my pussy?
Me: I miss you. How are you?
Him: I'm horny for you.
Me: When do I get to see you?
Him: Soon. Are you horny for me?
Me: Yeah. How soon is soon?
Him: As soon as I can. I'm trying. Don't start getting pushy.
Me: Asking to see you is being pushy?
Him: Your attitude
Me: What did I say that was wrong?
Him: If your gonna be like this, I'm not gonna see you ever again.
Me: Be like what? Asking to see you?
Him: You're starting shit. You are being pissy. You can't even be sweet to me.
Me: I just asked when i get to see you. That's all. That's being sweet. I'm so confused at how your reading this the wrong way.
Him: cuz that's not how you said it.
Me: What? Its a text message! How do you know my tone? geez.
(now I get upset)
Me: And if I'm not even "allowed" to ask you when I get to see you and that's too pushy for you then I just shouldnt be dirty talking you. And we both know that you have never tried to spend time with me. Please stop insulting my intelligence. I can't think of one nice thing that you have ever done for me even. All I am is sex texting to you. You don't want me, you don't love me and you treat me like shit.
Him: If that's what you think, then don't talk to me anymore. If you really feel that way, there's nothing stopping you from fucking other guys.
No response from me because I have no idea what to say.
Okay, so I know that I kind of went off and normally I would never do that because he would freak out and rage at me. I have no idea why he didn't do it this time (except I did just tell him I was diagnosed with PTSD and asked him to stop calling me names). Now I'm feeling guilty. But how long am I supposed to wait for him before he starts spending time with me? He has days off but just doesn't tell me about them. And what does he mean by me being with other men? I don't want anyone else. Its a non issue.
Does anyone have any advice for me. Maybe I am even the problem?? Thanks for your support!!!
cherryblossom
You are dead on girlfriend!!
Glad I can help
omg you guys!!!
You are all my saving grace!!
This is what bullies do!
I am 100% sure you are not a
You didn't go "off" on him
Brace yourself for what I am about to say...
slimpickens
Isnt it gross?
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rainbow1
First thing this morning...
Oh my god :(
Slimpickins
Thanks Movinonup!!!
Can't block phone #'s from a blackberry.
can you block his text? only
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
slimpickens
slimpickens
That's right!!
PTSD doesn't make people
better off~
slimpickens
slimpickens
At least i didn't have any of this crap
Okay ladies
No Kidding!
must chime in...
girlfriday