It all happened here at work

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#1 June 4, 2012 - 12:45pm
iluv3kids
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It all happened here at work

I'm brand new to the website but have already been helped so much. I dont' think my story is unique, but here it is. In my case, I met the N at work and he was EVERYTHING to me. Same interests, he said everything I wanted to hear...and made me feel so good, so complete, so loved, so important. He promised me he would leave his wife...said that he had been miserable with her since the day they married. I turned my life around for him and now in the process of divorce. I did everythign I could think of to get us to that spot where we could be together. But then I told him I was going to start dating, just to keep me distracted until he was ready. He got really mean. The Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde thing. I referred to it as "Thing 1 and Thing 2". I couldn't figure out HOW ON EARTH this man could treat and talk to me so lovingly and then turn on me as if he didn't remember anything he had said or the perfect moments we had spent together. I was devastated!! to say the least, took pills, days and days off work, I total non-functioning person inside the shell of a human body. Then, I learned the definition of a Narcissist...OMG! The light came on. This was him to a T! I started to research and came upon this site. It has helped me to "disconnect" somewhat from him...because the "HIM" I fell in love with does not actually exist. However, I still have to see him and be in the same building with him everyday! It's torture. I now hate him...I hate him. Please offer tips of how I can function in this building and still continue to heal. Thx!

June 5, 2012 - 9:26am
Jenna H
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narc at work

June 5, 2012 - 10:21am (Reply to #2)
iluv3kids
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Feel free to ask me anything.

June 5, 2012 - 2:08pm (Reply to #3)
Jenna H
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narc at work

June 5, 2012 - 4:40pm (Reply to #4)
iluv3kids
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It started with an innocent

June 5, 2012 - 7:39pm (Reply to #5)
Jenna H
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yep, i know it's not right

August 11, 2012 - 12:57am (Reply to #8)
NoMoreFreakBoy
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Thank you for sharing this.

June 6, 2012 - 3:56pm (Reply to #6)
iluv3kids
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listen carefully to yourself

June 6, 2012 - 4:48pm (Reply to #7)
Jenna H
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thanks