Contact After 3 yrs. Motives?

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#1 Aug 1 - 11PM
Jamienantucket
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Contact After 3 yrs. Motives?

Hi. I am new to this forum and would like some input from those who might understand. it has been suggested to me that my ex may have NPD. over the past 3 years of no contact, I have educated myself on the topic and I too strongly believe this to be the case.
Some backstory, he and I both dated other people but where seeing each other intermittently for over 2 years in between those relationships. He tried to cheat on his girlfriends with me more than once but I was not very accommodating. He finally succeeded using unfair manipulative tactics on one occasion after I tried to end our friendship. He later told me he planned to marry this woman and we had a huge fall out. He made me feel disposable and spoke to me with such disrespect. I was so hurt and angry after seeing this side of him that I told his GF everything. He had manage to lie his way out of previous transgressions with other women and at first she did not believe me.She finally came to her senses and dumped him.
I was heartbroken by his treatment of me and it took me a very long time to get over it. He swore he would never speak to me again and acted as though I was the villain.
Well, he contacted me 3 wks ago. I did a quick internet search and voila...Turns out he moved on swiftly. A month after his serious GF left him, he moved one of his previous transgressions (his neighbor) into his apartment. I met this girl once. She fallowed him around like a puppy. The former GF even befriended her. I had a feeling he would end up with her as she seemed convenient, compliant, and codependent. Fast forward 3 yrs, they have been married for 1 mon, and she is 6 months pregnant.
After receiving his email we did a little catching up. He never volunteered any of the info I found out, nor did I give him any indication that I knew about it. I finally asked him what his relationship status was and he told me he was married. Didnt mention to whom or that they were expecting. He then apologized for how he treated me and said he tried searching for me to say he was sorry. later he started flirting the next day the flirting intensified, and later turned to sexting. This went on for about 3 days with no resistance from me. I really wanted to see where he was going with this but I have not heard from him since.
I should feel sorry for his wife, and maybe I would if it werent for the fact that I know she was a witness to his past behavior and a willing participant back then. I selfishly hoped he would give me some clear indication that he was interested in cheating so I can say he will never change. Instead I wonder if he is trying to be a better man and this contact with me was just a slip up. Is it possible he hasnt, or wont cheat and lie in this relationship when he has habitually done so before? I just cant see how men like him could ever be happy in the confines of marriage or why they even try.

Aug 4 - 11PM
Deidre99
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He did cheat. No need to

Aug 5 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
Jamienantucket
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thanks

Aug 5 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
Deidre99
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You know who else hasn't

Aug 2 - 4PM
Goldie
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The Hoover is not a compliment