The Narcissist, Holiday Hoover & A Great Man By My Side

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#1 Dec 15 - 12PM
Goldie
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The Narcissist, Holiday Hoover & A Great Man By My Side

The narcissist tried engaging with me again, 5 times in last month, after years of NC, all in public settings (I was working/volunteering in a public setting this last time, previously I ignored him completely) with generic babble and this time, I looked him dead in the face and smiled brightly, and said happy holiday season, as I was saying to everyone. If I didn't say it to him, it would have appeared noticeable and given him power as if to say, I'm afraid to say it to you because I fear you or you have a hold over me. He did not know what to say after that. The old me would have acting differently. You know the drill, questions, answers, emotions, closure, blah blah blah.....I came across as happy and strong, a confident woman who basically was not giving him the time of day.

Done, I came across as done with him. Treating him as the peasant he is instead of anything special. I believe it freaked him out. When he left, he walked out and away fast and did not say a word. He's afraid. I know him. He's afraid if he even thinks of screwing with me, he will be made to look small publicly which is a narcissists biggest fear. This is why they screw with us privately and diss us to others, to build themselves up. He knew I was done and he was no longer important to me, they know, they read people well. This is what I should have done all along because he is small. He may be 6' 6" however is is not a great man, he is a small man and I want a great man by my side, thank you. Not, someone who embarrasses me with his disordered shady behavior. I used to treat him like he was something special and he took full advantage of my adoration and love for him.

That window of opportunity has passed him by, he had his bite at this apple and he blew it. I felt strong, like I was looking at someone who I loved once upon a time, yet no longer do. It felt GREAT. Course this is after several years. We get there if we want to and do the work.

Much loveOX,
Goldie

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Dec 16 - 11AM
pattylyn
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I love it and I'm over

Dec 19 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
omgalso
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I was invited to dinner

Dec 16 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Used
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pattylynn

Dec 16 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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Nîce, Pattylynn