First Week Away from N

I have packed up everything I could fit in my vehicle, took my young daughter and our inside cat and am living about 3 1/2 hours from him now. It was a week yesterday when I left. I'm not talking to him. I believe this no contact method is going to be great! I have my first consult with a lawyer in the middle of July.

I have been getting voicemails on my cell, he knows where I'm at now. He didn't know for awhile because I didn't tell him. My family up north (about 8 hours from our house) said he showed up there looking for us.

His father is a contact point right now. I advised his father that N coming here would be a waste of time because I am not talking to him. So far, he has heeded that advice. His father said N wrote me a letter and wants me to read it. I haven't received it yet.

But I am encouraged and empowered by this site and I know I am way better than he'll ever treat me and my daughter. All the sneers, put-downs, belittling, and humiliation are over and I am going for the his financial jugular.

He called and left a voicemail last night at about 2:40am with a long whiney message about how sorry he is. Then called about 9am and left a message saying he is on the verge of losing his job now because he can't focus because we're not there. Sounds like he is playing the blame game again, eh?

I am starting back at my job tomorrow that I have over the internet and I'm making plans for the future. I am going to get my mental and physical health back. And even if I walk away with nothing, I will still be on my way to healing. I still have my job and my family is so happy to see me part ways with this guy after 12+ years, my Dad says "please promise me you won't get back with him!" Wow! They have been pretty quiet about him because they didn't want to put him down since he was my husband, but they knew what he was doing and now that I'm gone from him, they're jumping for joy.

Daughter does not know yet that I am not planning on going back. She's 8 and I think she may suspect from all the talk between me and my family. I want to explain it so she'll understand that this is best for both of us even though she can't see the full picture.