Is it okay to just "not engage" ?
Is it okay to just "not engage" ?
Is it okay to just not engage when they are demanding an answer to something? My NH insists he is not hammering me with the same question over and over but wants to know why I won't discuss anymore the reasons I don't feel I can engage in a discussion about why I want to separate. I have told him I need some space etc. and have worked thru this with my therapist (and family doctor). There was a time a few weeks ago where he told me that he had failed me and the children, he knows he has an issue etc. Doesn't know why he rants and does not remember what he says or does. Now he has completely forgotten all of the that and I am the bad guy because I won't get into a discussion that I know will result in me feeling bad, confused and miserable. I have said I would discuss further with a therapist present when I am ready (strong enough). That won't do for him, he is furious that I will not have the discussion.....thoughts?
Wow, my thought is...this is
grossot - HIGH FIVE!
think aobut telling him that
I so well know that feeling
healing
not engaging
Yes I agree with everyone
http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview
nolongercontrolled