The loneliness and obsessing

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#1 September 18, 2017 - 12:58pm
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The loneliness and obsessing

It's been 36 days since I told him we were done. It felt great. Heck, up to that point we had been together for 2 1/2 years and he had discarded me like a piece of garbage countless times. The reasons were ridiculous and most times not my fault. He's a tornado and gets mad about something small and then just spins and finally discards me over something that had nothing to do with our initial argument. Regardless, it's done. But my question is how to I get over the obsessing... The wondering what he's doing, is he thinking about me, has he already moved on. I initiated no contact with him but of course he would show up at my house. It's been a week since that stopped. I suspect he's moved on. But truthfully it's the not knowing what's going on with him. I hate the guy, I love him. I don't miss him, I miss him incredibly. I want someone in my life, I can't bare the thought of someone. Seriously it feels some days like my head is going to blow off. I've done lots of reading and talk to all my friends. But I know they all think I'm in a good place with this, truth is there are still days I'm spinning. His lies are all coming to light. He's an alcoholic (although he doesn't think so), told me a month ago he flushed his drugs when i left (same drugs he told me a year ago he stopped do), he says he's been faithful but at this point I don't know what to believe. Near the end of our time, sex was even getting bizarre with porn needing to be on and talk of fantasies with us meeting someone in a bar and them coming up to the room with us. (All stuff I would never do).... Does my story sound familiar to anyone???? How do I stop thinking about this person who has my head spinning???? I know I don't want him back, but I also don't want to think about him anymore. I spent so much of our relationship sobbing....

January 12, 2018 - 10:26am
Nubeginnings
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Treat it as an addiction

January 11, 2018 - 9:34pm
Donewithgames
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We’ve said it before but wow same guy!!

ks

November 10, 2017 - 2:35pm
Donewithgames
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How did you feel last night

ks

November 10, 2017 - 2:51pm (Reply to #12)
Nubeginnings
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I felt Angry Frustrated

November 10, 2017 - 3:37pm (Reply to #13)
Donewithgames
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It truly is like talking to a

ks

November 10, 2017 - 6:49pm (Reply to #14)
Nubeginnings
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Its not simple at all

November 10, 2017 - 9:05pm (Reply to #15)
Donewithgames
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So very true. No judgements

ks

November 10, 2017 - 12:23pm
Nubeginnings
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Donewithgames are we talking about the same man

November 10, 2017 - 12:57pm (Reply to #8)
Donewithgames
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They certainly sound familiar

ks

November 10, 2017 - 2:17pm (Reply to #10)
Nubeginnings
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Very much so

November 10, 2017 - 1:02pm (Reply to #9)
Donewithgames
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Truthfully sometimes I feel

ks

November 10, 2017 - 6:17am
Donewithgames
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Don’t you find it almost

ks

November 9, 2017 - 6:57pm
Nubeginnings
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Sounds so Familiar

November 9, 2017 - 10:41pm (Reply to #2)
Donewithgames
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It’s hard isn’t it.

ks

November 9, 2017 - 11:02pm (Reply to #3)
Nubeginnings
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How are so many stories the same as mine

January 11, 2018 - 11:26am (Reply to #4)
Donewithgames
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Seeing if rollercoaster has stopped

ks

January 11, 2018 - 8:09pm (Reply to #5)
Nubeginnings
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Definitely never stops