Very slick hoover - they are capable of anything!

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#1 Sep 22 - 11AM
Alisa
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Very slick hoover - they are capable of anything!

My story with the Narc ended 5 years ago. There was one hoover a year after I went NC (to which I did not respond) and then nothing. This gave me enough time to recover (my relationship with the Narc had only lasted for a few months, thank God!) and be prepared for when I would eventually see him again (there's an event we both attend every now and then so I knew I might run into him eventually). I think I had not seen him for the last 2 years. I had never blocked his email or phone number because it had not been necessary, I had only unfriended him from facebook and blocked him on skype.

Finally, I ran into him on the street a couple of months ago and he started to chat with me (we had to go the same way). I have zero feelings left and also zero anxiety when it comes to him but also I don't care for a friendship, so talking to him seems pointless to me (and actually I find him really boring now that I am over him). I gave him monosyllabic answers and then our paths separated. I didn't give this encounter much thought other than I felt relieved that I didn't get all panicky when running into him.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago.
I get an email from a store opening. This email is sent to my private email address that I only share with friends and never to register or buy online. It's about a store selling things that actually do interest me - still I am intrigued because it is obvious they must have gotten my address from someone I know. I send the store owners an email, asking politely how they got my private email address.
You've already guessed it, right? The Narc, who is a close friend of theirs, gave it to them.

Now, I would not necessarily recommend doing what I did now but I wanted to see if I was right.
1) I sent him an email asking him not to share my email with anyone without my consent (he has not replied to it - not surprised)
2) Since the store did interest me, I grabbed a cool friend and we went there. The Narc was there as predicted and pretended to be surprised to see me. I only said hi and asked him if he had gotten my email, to which he replied "no" (liar). Then I turned back to my friend, had a great time with her and eventually we left without any further contact.

I am just writing this here to show that they really try to hoover and use the slickest possible ways to do so. Even if I had blocked his email address, I would have gotten the invitation because it came from a friend. Any other friend of mine would have forwarded the invitation so I would have known who it came from. So basically he tried to set up a scenario where we could potentially run into each other.

I am not really surprised considering he's a Narc but I would have NEVER expected this to occur after 5 years.

Oh and I am not interested in pursuing any of this further - I really just did this for kicks and because the store opening seemed like a cool event.

Sep 23 - 3PM
pattylyn
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Fake Facebook pages

Sep 24 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Alisa
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Very similar