Its over now

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#1 Apr 7 - 7AM
Itsovernow2017
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Its over now

Living with a narcissist and not knowing. I lived with a narc for over 30 years, however instead of letting the narc control me fully, I stood my ground for the most part. Like everyone else, he came into my life right after a pending divorce. I was in my early 30's and was quite lonely. I have always been an independent thinker and strong willed and relatively intelligent more so than he was. He thought that he was my knight in shining armor. However, he was not. He knew that I had a brick wall around my heart due to my short marriage. He thought that he could break it down. During the relationship, I had many family illnesses which I was responsible for. I raised three children that were not my own and did it successfully. He was there during that time and I must admit, I took his money and raised the children and brought my house. He was generous with the dollars and I had a mission. I had a full time job and as I was climbing the career ladder, he would often time try to persuade me not to move up to no avail. I felt that if I was on a job, I might as make as much money as I could and I did. This made him angry, but I did not care. As I knew that we were in a race. I was moving slowly and he was moving quickly. I knew who would win he race. The slow one. I was busy making my plans and I little time to deal with his craziness. He was a true narc. All the characteristic he wore. I saw and I ignored. Like I said the good thing was he was generous with his money and I used every penny of it. I am now retired, my home is paid for my vehicles are paid for and I have a nice tidy sum in the bank. If he knew how much, he would die. He was a lazy man who worked outside the home but never inside. He was a cheater, liar, manipulator and very jealous of my accomplishments. He hated to wash his behind, lied and really thought that I was not wise to the lie. I knew I was a challenge to him because he tried for years to control me. Because I had been married to a liar, it was not hard to deal with this liar. He thought that he was the greatest lover, but he was not, in fact because I had been involved with lovers that were far more experienced, he was really inexperienced. Besides, I had to teach the narc how to make love to satisfy me. I disassociated my mind from him years ago and to me he was a roomer. I wanted to kick him out years ago, but I did not want to have my conscience beat me for using him for the kids. Long story short, after I had accomplished my mission, I kicked him out. It has been six weeks now and I am ok with the decision I made. I will never let him back into my life. I sleep very peacefully every night and smile at the fact that I got over on him. Ladies, sex is not every thing. Always have a back up plan.

Apr 8 - 1PM
Goldie
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It's amazing you held on for so long

Apr 9 - 5AM (Reply to #2)
Itsovernow2017
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Revenge is sweet