So, you are the narcissists new woman...

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#1 Jun 26 - 10AM
Emma
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So, you are the narcissists new woman...

So, it looks like you bagged yourself a real winner. He's funny, witty, charming, and successful. He tells you how special you are, which is great to know as all his exes were psycho bitches. It's so sad the story of his abused past with one bad relationship after another. Life just hasn't been fair to him.

But, oh, you are different, so special, unlike any woman he has ever had. And boy were those past women bad! They took advantage of him, cleaned out his bank account, possibly ruined his credit. And they were all cheaters, too. Sadly, even their children were monsters.

So, thankfully, you are good and pure and he is so happy to have found you. You feel the exhilarating, delightful fireworks of a perfect new love. God has answered your prayers! Your life feels so magical, so fairytale-come-true perfect.

And you are so happy to have found him, too. Why, it's almost nearly impossible to find anything wrong with him, and even more impossible to believe that any woman would have done him so wrong. What fools they must have been!

He treats you well. He amuses you with tales of his glorified past. He charms you and your friends. You are walking on air! Giddy with this newfound perfect man and falling in love for he is just so irresistible to not love! You couldn't possibly find anything wrong with this wonderful man put on display in front of you.

Right now you are feeding his hungry ego. The rush you create in him is a positive one and it makes him delirious with his power over you.

And you just can't understand why those women would ever have let go of such a wonderful man. But, of course, he wasn't happy with any of them - in fact, he was miserable. He was just ... waiting ... waiting for someone as wonderful and as special as you to come along.

And you sit in compassionate awe as he tells you horror stories of the abuse he suffered. And maybe you will run into one of these women from his past, and maybe he will point her out, and maybe you will glare at her...how dare she hurt such a wonderful and godly man?!

And she will look back at you, and you see a look in her eyes...maybe you won't recognize that look because you never saw it before. Is she jealous, or is she possibly that evil - like he said - that you just didn't recognize the evil when you saw it as you never experienced anything that evil before?

No, it's not an evil look in her eyes. You don't think it's jealousy, either. You just can't put your finger on it.

Wait, maybe it's the look of ... the look of defeating compassion and helplessness. Yes, that's it! His ex looks at you with helplessness.

Someday you will understand. But not today.

Mar 4 - 11PM
sabinemason
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Just ran in to OW after nearly three years

Jan 12 - 4PM
Goldie
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Good One, A Must Read

Dec 5 - 4PM
brinamarie
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Nothing short of amazing.

Dec 4 - 1PM
lisalisa47
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WOW...powerful...

LML

Nov 29 - 1PM
talktothehand
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Right now

Nov 29 - 12PM
thenewjane
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This is EXACTLY

Nov 28 - 8PM
wimom
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I now remember , 15 years ago

Dec 5 - 7PM (Reply to #21)
Pumpkin
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You bet

Pumpkin

Nov 28 - 7AM
IncognitoBurrito
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Amazeballs!

Nov 29 - 12PM (Reply to #19)
thenewjane
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I'm laughing too, ICB

Nov 28 - 12AM
Polly75
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OMG how true

Jun 27 - 4PM
Reason2Believe
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I can't help but wonder

Jun 27 - 4PM (Reply to #13)
LoserFree
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Reason he will say ANYTHING

Nov 29 - 1PM (Reply to #16)
talktothehand
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pity party

Jun 27 - 10PM (Reply to #14)
Reason2Believe
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Loser Free

Jun 27 - 10PM (Reply to #15)
LoserFree
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Reason I don't know about

Jun 26 - 8PM
no more an echo
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yes...we all came to understand. OUCH !

Jun 26 - 8PM
neverlookback
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SO YOU ARE THE PSYCHOPATHS NEW WOMAN

Jun 26 - 2PM
TruthbeginsToday
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so true

Jun 26 - 12PM
Hunter
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Ya is great .. Please

Jun 26 - 12PM (Reply to #8)
Emma
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It's from a great site.

Jun 26 - 11AM
pamela11
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EXACTLY! Its so unbelievably

Jun 26 - 10AM
Looking Ahead
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Emma, I don't post much, but

Jun 26 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
Emma
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I do wish this was my work

Jun 26 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
fern
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spot on..

Jun 26 - 10AM
midwestdiva
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exactly...

Jun 26 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
LindsayM
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I wish I found this a year ago.....