Pick a Narc..1 Narc mother, 2 Bigger Narc!
Pick a Narc..1 Narc mother, 2 Bigger Narc!
My Mother is a raging Narcisist, and possible many other PDs. But you see, when you put a raging Narc, besides a even Bigger Narc, the first N, turns into a Codependent! Or in a people pleaser!
I have received nothing but insults, crises and ugly words, and sometimes physical abuse from my mother, during our living together. Long and boring story, but since I educated myself into Narcisism and all the stuff, I realy TRIED to look at my mother as a sick person and nothing more.
In the book "Daughters of Narcisistic Mothers", the author says very truthfully and kindly, that asking and seeking from your N mother REAL love, is like asking a colorblind person, for a rainbow! And it`s true, so true.
That my mother is N is crystal clear to me. But she`s not the reason I`m posting in this forum today.
Yesterday, my family had an "out of the blue" visit, from a foreign Aunt. Slaming and harsh beatings in the doors, and then she came and installed herself on our couch, and started DEMANDING stuff, ATTENTION, and other wishes!
My mother had a lot to work. My father had his own stuff as well. Of course, self absorbed parents like mine, are little children compared to this Aunt!! I was in the next room, and I was getting angry only hearing her demands and wishes!
Even though as I said, I`m not a fan of my mother, or the way she treated me, but seeing someone like that, coming into your own house, and behaving like she OWNS everyone, I was like a raging volcano, lol.
Of course, when I tried to make an argument with my mother, and ask her why doesn`t she stand up for herself, why does she let this person treat her like s*it, in her own house?! She called me SELFISH.
Yeah, selfish for caring for her self esteem.
But anyway. It`s just an example that even a monster Narc like my mother, can be overcomed, by even a Bigger Queen of Narcisism.
You need a lot of nerve to come into someone`s home, without even announcing, and then behaving like you OWN everyone! And then she was the one getting UPSET, for her wishes not being aquired in enough time!!
God Almighty, that`s not my house, but if it was, that person would have gone out with broken ribs and bones.
My mother did treated me like shit all my life, but even so, I can`t stand people treating other people like s*it, in front of me.
I can`t stand arseholes anymore, I don`t care if they are family or not.
And of course, I haven`t received nothing but ugly words from mother, for my "intervention" in her "amazing" relationship with that person. But you know something? For all the shitty treatment that she applied to me, I guess I might as well let her "enjoy" a taste of her own medicine.
I had good intentions, but you gotta have with who to talk them to.
Sorry if the tone of this post seems a little harsh for some maybe, but really, there are people out there, or should I call them better NARCS, that really have no limits of crossing boundaries.
Strange isn't it?
You are dead right, goldie