Another Success Story Here On The Path Forward

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#1 Apr 24 - 11AM
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Another Success Story Here On The Path Forward

Dear Goldie-

It'sFinallyTime has granted me permission to share her fabulous news with all here- I'm sure many of you remember her as she was a major part of this forum for 2 years- She has posted on here many times in the past and reached out to many newbies as well and was just like everyone else who shows up here- Frustrated- hurt- angry- lost- and she was looking for help and wanted it right away- She was ready to stop the insanity once and for all and she has- She PM'd me her first day here and said- Goldie what do I need to do to feel better and can you help me? Here is her recent message to me:

Dear Goldie-

I am beyond thrilled to say that after a lifetime of bad guys I have finally found a good one. He's just the right mix of edgy with a heart of gold. Someone who adores me, is always there for me and would - and does - do anything for me. As I do for him. I finally have the partner I have always wanted and we are getting married in July.

I would NEVER have been able to allow myself to be with someone like this without the 2+ years of intensive work with you.

So I am very grateful.
~Itsfinallytime~

Itsfinallytime- This is wonderful news- Congrats- I am happy for you- You did the work- You wanted to change your patterns and were more than willing to look at yourself and make the changes- I even remember you asking for more just to make sure you weren't missing anything- Thank you for sharing this with me- it's a welcome joy to hear the good stuff-
Do you mind if I share this with those who are still struggling- I believe it would give them hope- ~Goldie~

Thank you Goldie -

it's nice to actually have good news. :) No doubt I was willing to do the work (and still am willing to continue, since it's never done) but without someone who really understands what's involved and who can guide and facilitate and push when necessary, it's really tough to make any real progress - as you well know - so hats off to you for sharing your gift.

Sure - feel free to share whatever you'd like. There's light at the end of the tunnel and it doesn't have to be a train, lol. It can still be a struggle -- relationships will always be a struggle for me -- and he's a man, so he can be a giant pain in the ass, lol, but the difference is in the commitment and the genuine desire to succeed on both parts. One of the most bizarre things to me initially was his consistency - he never, ever disappears and he's never once blown hot & cold or withheld or tried to triangulate or pull any of that narc crap. And he's an open book. It's weird, lol, but in a really great way.

Newbies and Old timers:

I share this with you to offer you hope in knowing one day this will all be behind you- Itsfinallytime was just as down as you are now and she will be the first one to admit this was not easy- She was a one on one client with me as well as a participant in several of my Support Groups- She is not the only one here who has broken the patterns with unhealthy relationships- I have several clients who are married now to healthy partners and many in good relationships as well as those enjoying their "me" time after years catering to another- Believe in yourself; we believe in you- You are not alone-- Healing gives you back your freedom and peace of mind in order to make choices with clarity-

~Much Love~
Goldie xo