Is anyone's health suffering?

The stress began affecting my health...ulcer, headaches, not sleeping...contant diahrea...hair falling out...my thyroid level was off....fatigue.... Not that this is the answer, but my Dr, put me on anti depressants and other meds for some of the ailments I was experiencing...my ailments are better...still a little sickish to my stomach...Im just now waiting for the anti depressants to kick in...3 more weeks and I should be good!! Stress is a horrible thing!

People told me that when I left the xN the color came back in my eyes, I smiled all the time and I know my hair bounced back as it is long and thick and had become thin and limp and lifeless. I had also become almost anorexic when with him. I saw a photo of myself right after I left him and I looked horribly thin. I had the anxiety, stomach maladies, hives, etc. when I was with him. Probiotics have helped immensely in getting my stomach healthy again. I no longer have to take something to help me sleep...I sleep like a baby every single night! There is no doubt. Being with him...the stress, anxiety, walking on eggshells, always wondering if what he was saying was a lie (and it usually was), took a great toll on my mental and physical health.

I also have the issues of some of the above. I can only assume that my flight or fight masked the underlying damage that was being done and now that Im feeling safer the body is trying to re-regulate and repair itself and the result is inflammation and low immunity? Thats my best guess but Im not sure really. Are you taking zinc and vitamin c? I started on them and feel somewhat better, but yes, I'm not doing so well physically.I don't know what the hell the angry spots are, I got them too. I hope you feel better.

I think my health got better. I lost that angst and anxiety that I'd been carrying around all the time. I was finally able to sleep after having so many obsession filled, restless nights. God knows what all that anxiety did to my body. It didn't happen in an instant though. It takes some time.

totally relate midnight!! it's been 2 months, and I feel SO much better mentally. i don't cry. i for the first time ever don't miss his disgusting games & anxiety he caused, but.. my physical appearance has taken a toll. gained a lil weight, bags under my eyes... i'm 25 and look like hell! least i feel like i do. hoping it gets better...

can I speak about this. It has been 10 months since a vicious cruel discard and my health has suffered immensley. Lets see Boils Sebborherric Dermatitis Hair loss Hives Constipation/Diarrhea Yeast infection insomnia lack of concentration oh wait I forgot ENDLESS ITCHING! and general feeling of unwellness. You it takes awhile for their toxicity to make its way out of your system. Im kind of looking at it as a good thing now that I can actually see proof that it is making its way out.

The past couple of years with Narc my anxiety would trigger itching skin to the point I would claw flesh. Wake up and look as if I had been shot with a machine gun during the night. Sheets spotted in blood. Blood pressure, weight gain, depression, any emotional issue possible...i had it. Doing better...lost 25lbs, getting healthier, mentally and physically. Blood pressure at Dr. last week 137/70...amazing! Hasn't been that low in 3 years. Anxiety is still hanging around...Had a meltdown during one of the assignments in Lisa's book. Guess it brought back too many bad thoughts...needed to do this assignment though and glad I got it out. Clawed skin again. Taking steroids and new anti-axiety meds to deal with that. It will be better now that the root of the problem is no longer around...evil piece of crap man! Only thing now is having a few nightmares..never had bad dreams before...always he is in the nightmare. Saw a light flash outside my bedroom window and immediately assumed it was him looking in...not sure if it's my imagination or hallucinating. just freaking out i guess. I am mentally/emotionally at this point in a much much better place. I KNOW I WILL BE OK. This is a good place to be. I just have to slow down, do the work, and start anew! I am happy and hopeful for the future...something I haven't been in a while. I am also beginning to experience joy once again. Joy is something I wish for all of us! After going through the horrible experiences we have all been through, I can't think of people who deserve joy more. -fefe

My health took a serious beating after xnh D&D'd (actually it was going downhill for a while BEFORE I got rid of him as well). I think 16 years of stress from both xnh and his hideous P daughter's constant chaos and drama took quite a toll on my health. I had some previous serious health problems that got MUCH worse with xnh, and I've added a "collection" of new ones during my relationshit with him as well. Stress is known to be VERY destructive to our health. Since xnh, I've been finding out exactly HOW destructive it can be. It's not pretty. :( The first year after the D&D, I honestly felt like my body was trying to purge years of xnh's evil toxins out of my system. It was like I had a black cloud of poison coming out of me in order to "clean" my system, and return it back to a healthier state. That first year, I badly broke my ankle (twice). I have severe osteoporosis, and my bone density numbers started backsliding badly. It started raining like crazy, which is NOT normal. I live in a desert. Because of the rain, the weeds on my property grew up to the eaves on my house (literally). Mowing down the weeks triggered one of my autoimmune problems into a flare-up that lasted for months. My dog got cancer (three different times). He'd NEVER had cancer before. Xnh had tracked home an STD and infected me with it from his cheating before he left, and I had a cervical cancer scare that summer because of it. Some stupid girl plowed into the back end of my brand new parked car while she was texting, and I then drove a rental car for several months while in a cast on my leg. I then had a really severe allergic reaction to an antibiotic that I'd take many times before, and this reaction triggered my rheumatoid arthritis into a flare-up that I have never gotten completely under control since. It was a year of complete medical Hell. The only thing I can attribute all of this to is that, after 16 years of xnh and his toxic personality, this is what it took to "reset" my life from xnh's evil stress. However, once all of this happened, this "medical drama" does seem to have slowed down for me. I still have severe health problems but not like during THAT year. Emotionally and spiritually, I am very happy now that I'm not with xnh. Overall, my life is so much better. My friends are truly my friends. They and my family love me for just being me, and they CHOOSE to be around me exactly as I am. I may be sick some, but I'm no longer being abused for it as well. Xnh told me during our marriage that he wished I'd just "go ahead and die - get it over quickly because my health problems were holding HIM back and ruining his life." Good old xnh, predictably self-centered to the core. lol. I'll take this trade-off in health problems any day over wasting one more second of my of life with xnh. In case you're not familiar with my story, it's been 20 months since since xnh D&D'd and I've been completely NC for 19 months now. That first year was incredibly painful health-wise for me, but it was so worth it. Now, I'm free of xnh and his abuse. Overall, my life is happy. :) Hugs.

I've only had a couple of sessions, the first one being an assessment mostly. Feels more directed and focused than the run-of-the-mill go in and talk talk talk without ever accomplishing anything. I'll report back here with a better take after tomorrow's session to do with triggers.

It's what everyone else is stating in their replies. Compare it to the symptoms of somebody who was addicted to drugs, alcohol, etc. When they quit their addiction, their bodies go through withdrawals as they purge the substance from their systems. Once they get through that detoxing period (however long it takes), their bodies become healthier. Their minds become clearer. They're no longer numb to what is around them or inside them. They're becoming mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy again. I've lost 20 pounds within a month. I'm talking about steroid weight that is so hard to get off - even with healthy eating and exercise! My doctors told me to start drinking the supplimental vitamin/mineral drinks that are low in carbs/sugars.Need to lose more. But considering I lost 250 pounds of toxic weight in one day (HA! HA!), I feel a TON lighter!!:) It will get better, and your body will become healthier.

No skin problems, but a good deal of weight loss. Actually that's a positive, I've finally attained my ideal weight that I'd been working toward for the last couple of years. The last few pounds melted away rather quickly, to say the least. Without exception everyone who sees me comments on how much weight I've lost and how skinny I am. My appetite has plummeted since the D&D in December. So when I eat I try to make it count, my morning smoothies have almond milk, bananas, sometimes blueberries, wheatgrass juice, maca powder (good support for the adrenal system), some chia seed, some ground flax and EFA oil, and some spirulina. In the autumn before the D&D everyone who saw me said I looked so happy and appeared to be glowing (love). Now I look at myself in the mirror and have a sad look in my eyes, am pasty-faced (spend too much time in bed instead of out in the sunshine), and the energy isn't there, I haven't been exercising as much as I should. Eyes are often puffy because I still have crying fits from time to time. A little more self care, sunshine and exercise should help with appearances. Midnight7 your body is probably just expulsing the toxins that you had accumulated from your relationship, it's all rising to the surface now. Take very good care of yourself at this time, get enough nutrients, drink lots of water, try to exercise and hopefully that will help with your physical issues and stress/sleep. I remember being unable to focus at work too, it was awful. I did ask my doctor for pharmaceutical help and have been prescribed some anti-anxiety meds and also a low dose of some tranquilizer, this has really helped too as I work through this and try to regain my bearings.

Me, verbatim. I'm on therapy with loads of medication to take.