The Audacity of the OW asking my side of the story...REALLY? I DON'T owe her nothing!

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#1 Aug 29 - 2PM
Liberated2Aspire
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The Audacity of the OW asking my side of the story...REALLY? I DON'T owe her nothing!

I have taken everyone's advice about calling an attorney after posting ATTN: I'm HURTING & need help and wisdom." I called attorney and I'm getting all information I can gather, as well as signed up to be part of a group called "Divorce Care" and "DK4K (Divorce care for kids) until I can get us into therapy. It's a six weeks program. I may do a couple.

I fail to mention before I posted that I sent the OW a short email stating " Who's WOMB did you come out of that you would inflict pain on another woman in which you knew my husband was married before you got involved with him? Just know that I've warned you three times. (I tried to build her self esteem and told her since she's a single woman that she's wasting time on my married man because time spent with him is time taken from a man she could be meeting and other nice things because she's 27, the fact that she's one of many mistresses, and etc. okay back to email.) Why would you believe anything this man is saying to you when you see what he's all about up front when you're witnessing the lies he's telling me. YOU ARE WRONG to be interfering in our marriage because you are the third leg, the one outside of the marriage and the marriage covenant was made between my husband, me and God. You're WRONG to be listening only to his side/his lies and then you have the audacity to coach him on what to say and how to treat me? What decent woman would come against a married woman and wickedly scheme along with the cheating husband to help destroy the relationship with children involved? (UNDERSTAND...I NO longer want to be with him. This was my initial reaction when I heard her in the background coaching him on what to tell me while he's being belligerent towards me.) I don't blame her for his actions. I DO BLAME her for being involved with coaching him after I have warned and asked her to step away from this situation because she's 27 and he's 43 and I can easily understand how suave he could be, handsome and making money.

Well, she replied back with ...SO what is your side of the story? REALLY? THE AUDACITY?

WHY should I give her an explanation when I'm the one who's married to him (secretly planning to escape) and she's the one who cheating with him? As far as I'm concern she made her choice upfront because she knew he was married, she knew how I felt once I found out AND she see's he's character up front (a cheater, a liar). I didn't choose this for myself. I didn't know the difference between marital issues and disorder. NOW I KNOW!!!

I've chosen to do NC with her. However, when it crosses my mind I'm sooooo tempted! She can have him because I'm finished with him. Hell, if I could see her in person I would hand him over to her along with his dog collar and dog leash!! All she stole was a CHEAT AND LIAR. In fact, she's doing me a favor because while he's concentrating on his new supply I'm able to set myself free and get liberated. No longer in Captivity!

I do understand I have a BIG TRANSITIONING ahead as I will have THE GOOD, THE BAD & THE UGLY but I won't relent until I'm happy, free to be me AND prosperous again!!!

Aug 31 - 7AM
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Liberated2Aspire

Aug 30 - 12PM
indifferent
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Hmmm interesting...

Aug 30 - 3PM (Reply to #53)
indifferent
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oh....

Aug 30 - 2PM (Reply to #51)
Liberated2Aspire
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@indifferent

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Aug 30 - 6PM (Reply to #52)
indifferent
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Thank you so much....

Aug 30 - 1PM (Reply to #50)
Deidre99
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outstanding post,

Aug 30 - 12PM (Reply to #49)
spinning
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Wow, indifferent,

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Aug 30 - 10AM
Liberated2Aspire
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Awesome Quote!!!

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Aug 30 - 1PM (Reply to #46)
IncognitoBurrito
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Heya :)

Aug 30 - 2PM (Reply to #47)
Liberated2Aspire
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@incognitoBurrito

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 30 - 9AM
ScarletLily33
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I've read this quote

Aug 30 - 3PM (Reply to #44)
Bella10
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Love this. :)

Aug 30 - 1AM
Im_always_fine
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Yeh don't waste your energy

Aug 29 - 8PM
IncognitoBurrito
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GOLDIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Aug 29 - 8PM (Reply to #41)
Liberated2Aspire
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I will as I can get the money. He's cut me from the bank

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 29 - 8PM
Liberated2Aspire
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It was not my intent to focus on her but after much posting and

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 29 - 8PM (Reply to #39)
IncognitoBurrito
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How

Aug 29 - 8PM (Reply to #38)
Janie53
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I WANT to be healthy!

Aug 29 - 7PM
Hunter
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Honey I'm trying to help you

Aug 29 - 8PM (Reply to #36)
Liberated2Aspire
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@ Hunter: THANK YOU

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 29 - 5PM
Warrior
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Sorry to disagree, but it is

Aug 29 - 6PM (Reply to #34)
Liberated2Aspire
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@ Warrior ....Good Point !

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 29 - 4PM
Hunter
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We are all the OTHER WOMAN

Aug 29 - 6PM (Reply to #26)
Liberated2Aspire
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@ I'm confused & I need to understand so it won't happen again

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 29 - 6PM (Reply to #27)
Done sourcing
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Liberated....we are truly

Aug 29 - 7PM (Reply to #28)
Liberated2Aspire
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I wasn't focuse on her until I simply tried to let it be known

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 29 - 7PM (Reply to #32)
Done sourcing
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Liberated, I know you mean

Aug 29 - 7PM (Reply to #29)
Liberated2Aspire
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The line that says "I'm tempted ..."

Liberated2Aspire

Aug 30 - 8AM (Reply to #30)
evergreen
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Big Thankyou!

Aug 30 - 2PM (Reply to #31)
Liberated2Aspire
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NO, no no You miss understood me

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