Can a narcissist be faithful?

I'd like to think mine was faithful - not that it matters now. But who knows? They lie about EVERYTHING, so how does one REALLY know the truth as to whether they were or can be faithful or not. Unless you actually catch them in the act or they flat out admit to cheating. I've read there are different kinds and levels of unfaithfulness. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. Frequently contacting women on Facebook and other social sites in a way as if they were single, is a version of being unfaithful. Being more devoted to porno than his g/f or wife is another version. Anything is possible, so perhaps narcs CAN be faithful. It just depends in what way you're talking about. Remember, they're always scoping for the next victim to feed on. So... I'm thinking they're never 100% faithful. There's always SOMETHING or someone else they have to feed on if we're not giving them what they want. Even if they're with us at the time. Their minds and emotions are somewhere else... As far as I'm concerned (if mine was cheating), I'm so relieved he's someone else's nightmare and no longer mine! I'm so excited to get rid of all the testosterone crap we have in this house! I can decorate it however I want! I can sit on the toilet if I have to go in the middle of the night and know the toilet seat will be down and not up! I can sleep on whatever side of the bed I want - even sideways! I can talk to my animals and myself out loud without looking like I'm nuts. I can walk from one end of the house to the other, and be able to forget what the heck I was going to do without feeling scared that he would use that against me in saying my disease was affecting my mental capacity. I don't have to shave my legs and other areas every freaking day! Oh my gosh, that one is AWESOME! AND I can watch Bridesmaids 20 times and laugh my butt off every time without having to cater to his movie tastes. I no longer have to explain to him what words or sentences mean anymore (i.e. - "Sweetie, the word 'dumbass' means that someone is, well, just like you. And the word 'asshole', well, just go look in the mirror"). Sorry I got sidetracked, but I've just had a wondeful epiphany on what I can do now. Life is good... :)

Mine was faithful to cheating. I used to believe he wouldn't cheat. He sold me on that poor, pitiful me, I've had ex-girlfriends cheat on me & it hurt so bad. I wouldn't do that to someone. Bullshit!!!

My narc said he was ENTITLED to look and flirt with other women infront of me but that it didn't count as cheating. But he projected his own suspicion on me by accusing me of alleged cheating even though I tried so hard to prove to him that he was the only person in my life. He feared so much that I was cheating on him. At first he made those declarations about how he would NEVER cheat on me, ever, ever, ever ever and how against he is cheating and if I ever cheated on me he would leave me (or beat me). He projected so much hatered against cheating that I think he did it to brainwash me into thinking he would never cheat on me. Today I think he probably did cheat on me. I was just stupid enough to believe his projection.

Faithful to acquiring Supply!! Can an Orange Turn into an apple? Hunter

Can a duck drive a car? I always thought my exN was 'faithful', yet even now, two+ years after the fact I have revelations about times when he said he was doing this or that and wonder what was REALLY going on. Also, like others have said, he was definitely lining up new supply before ending our relationship - how far things went with her sexually before I don't know, but I'm realizing there is MUCH I didn't know about what he was actually doing all throughout the relationship. Also, I didn't think he ever lied to me, but now I wonder if he EVER told the truth. Journey on...

I think it depends on what you or they think being faithful is.... Mine used to brag about how he was always faithful in his marriage...then he would tell me times when he "hooked up" with women at clubs...I did the math and asked one day, "werent you married?" He said, "yeah, but I didnt sleep with her I just let her blow me!" Can you believe this asshole???? I dont know if he physically cheated on me but I know he was emotionally involved with the OW while he and I were together... So I guess it depends on what the true meaning of "being faithful" is....They need supply, so whether it is physical, emotional, or flirting, it's a fix of supply for them...depends on what level they need at the moment.... Either way...they are liars, cheats, and bullshit artists who hurt, abuse, and use for their own benefit!!!!

I'm not sure whether mine cheated on me while we were "100% together" (In June he asked for space and moved out to -I found out later- some bartender's apartment) The whole summer was a push-pull situation so it's hard to tell... One of those weeks when he came back home to "try and live with me" in July I was having a nap on a bed next to him while he emailed the OW telling her some movie was going to be released in September and they should go watch it. He had been seeing her randomly during summer, and barely 3 weeks after moving out he slept with her. He was pretty much juggling us both for 3 months... Thinking about it, he ALWAYS had supply from other women who he called friends. I actually made a list... M,K,R,E,C,N,P,F,M... He knew it made me feel uncomfortable but he always said I was jealous and he was "better friends with women than men" Funny thing, he didn't even know the last names of this so called friends of his. I was told back in January he was already talking to female bartenders saying bad things about me...

No, it is not possible for a N to be faithful - promiscuity is part of their hard-wiring. How do you know he was faithful? My xN kept me in the dark for a decade regarding OW supply. Even if they are faithful ie not having sexual intercourse with OW (unlikely even the most cerebral of Ns will have sex occasionally as part of their power play games) a N will have OW supply - the friend he just has dinner with/colleague he meets for coffee which causes the Gf great stress and provides him with drama/excitement. Many Ns prefer porn. The Ns regular women are secondary supply, bottom of the supply food chain, if he has good primary supply he may not require OW secondary supply as often. The cerebral/somatic tags are not helpful, they are not as clear cut as they seem. The xN appeared to be both at times. He was an intellectual of sorts with a voracious sexual appetite, a porn habit, and was convinced he was a prime physical specimen, keeping fit/designer clothes.

I dont know for sure if my exnarc ever had sex with the OW, but he certainly was lining her up for months before he left. And looking back the 3 weeks before he left he worked loads of overtime and went out every weekend, so he prob was, even tho he was still sleeping wi me! urgh!!!! But about 10months before i went on his facebook whilst he was on a lads hol in benidorm and found he had messaged this girl who he went to school wi, saying that he was bored and did she want to text. Looking at the dates, i was upstairs asleep while he was downstairs doin that! Who knows if they text but when i confronted him he denyed ever knowin who "sara" was and that he had messaged. He only admitted when i confessed that i had been on his facebook. He then rang constantly but when he came back he werent that apologetic and just said that he hadnt done anything, that he would delete her and that his friend had had a man to man chat wi him and told him to sort himself out! but then he just expected me to forgive and forget!!!! and we had just literally moved into our home we had bought together! I really think this was the catalyst of our relationship as thats when i started to question everything he did and be more aware, whereas before this i was always so trusting of him and never questioned his "love" or that he would ever cheat on me. I think they can be faithful in the sense of actual sex with someone else, but they cant be faithful in the sense that they always need some sort of attention from other women.

from my readings if he was not cerebral highly unlikely. unless he had other sources of supply (job, friends, material things). I asked my N if he was seeing someone else and his response was "when would I have time to see someone else?" bahaha!!! when he discarded me out of t blue a few days later, he said a major factor was that I asked him this question. Whatta silly narc :)