Checking In After Two and a Half Years

Hi Everybody!

I haven't been on here since April of 2011. Hopefully, all of the older members are better and have moved on and the new ones are working through the confusion, hurt and overall storm of having been involved with a Narc.

Having gone through all that you have, I wanted to just say that it does get better, once you have decided that enough is enough and that being with a Narc is more pain than pleasure.
The hardest part about letting go, is coming to the conclusion that the person that you were with, never existed at all. Wrapping your head around that fact, is nearly impossible at first, but there will come a point where it will all get better.

When first breaking away, I remember just wanting to know that the awful feelings that went along with being with him, would go away; they do and they will.

I have not dated since we broke up and after all of the chaos over the years, I really have been more happy without all of the hurt and drama. I started my own business and foster animals to help channel my nurturing side. One day, I may be interested in a relationship again, but I really am okay that it hasn't happened yet.

Hang in there and take care of yourselves. I know it is easy for others to tell you NC, but there will come a day, where you aren't interested in picking up the phone anymore. It sounds like a dream right now, but it will happen. :)

Hang in there and take care of yourselves!