Constant hurt.... Why?

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#1 Oct 19 - 2AM
Laurelly82
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Constant hurt.... Why?

I'm a little over 3 months out of this N relationship and I want to try and understand why he wants to continually hurt me? We are selling our house so I keep him blocked on my phone until I need to ask him a question about the house sale. Yesterday I had a question about the washing machine so I got in touch and then stupidly stupidly stupidly instead of putting him on block again I started a text conversation with him which went on for most of the afternoon, evening and then all morning. He decided to share with me that he cheated on me 3 times in our relationship - once with his ex, once with a girl he met on the way home from a night out and the third was a friend of mine who got in touch with him to see if he was ok. He won't tell me who this 'friend' of mine is - I wracked my brains all night to think if there was anyone who would do such a thing and I can't even think of anyone who liked him! All my friends thought he was odd...
So he has a new GF and sent me a picture of the 2 of them the other night - has shared intimate details about their sex life etc. I just don't understand why he won't just leave me alone! He has also informed me of women he has brought back to out house in the last 3 months to have sex with. I have no idea what the truth is anymore. It's making me feel so upset and anxious. The good news is the house is completing on Thursday so I feel that will give me the final closure I need and means I won't need to be in touch anymore.
Why do they continue to dig the knife in and twist it? I just don't understand. He told me he is in love with new GF and never loved me. For the first time last night he criticised my appearance, my weight etc. Is it because we are so close to the end that he wants to have the last laugh? Help!

Oct 20 - 9AM
Goldie
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Contact=Pain

Oct 21 - 10AM (Reply to #9)
Laurelly82
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Thanks Goldie - you are an

Oct 19 - 3PM
Done sourcing
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They dig into us because that

Oct 19 - 3PM
Done sourcing
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I got all of that kind of

Oct 19 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
Laurelly82
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Thanks ds

Oct 19 - 7AM
Janie53
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Laurelly

Oct 19 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Laurelly82
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Thanks Janie...

Oct 19 - 6AM
ItsFinallytime
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Hi Laurelly. They do it

Oct 19 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Laurelly82
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Thanks ItsFinallytime