Could I have been living with a psychopath all these years?
Could I have been living with a psychopath all these years?
When i first came on this board I was sure my NH was a Narc. Now that I am doing intensive work in therapy and forced to face horrible memories of abuse I think He is a psychopath. Can he be both a psychopath and a narcissist? Here are some of the behaviors.
1. early on forced me to have sex when I did not want to.
2. Involved in 2 murders.
3. very violent and mean as a small child. (found out from his aunt).
4. killed family pets when very young. (found out from sister-in-law).
5. Physically kicked, spit on me, punched, held against my will for hours.
6. Extremely jealous. would blame me if any man paid attention to me.
7.Would rip my clothes if he thought were too tight or too revealing.
8. When he was younger he would curse at one of his aunts with no remorse.
9.Threatened to kill his former gf father.
10. Slapped his daughters' mother in the hospital right after she had given birth because she asked him to leave. she did not want him there. (I wonder why).
11.went to prison for 12 years.
12. Threw my fathers bible during an argument.
13. surfed the web for sex.
14. wanted me to dress up like a prostitute during sex.
15. wanted sex with a strap-on
16. begged for anal sex constantly.
17. can be very charming so no one would see this side.
18. If someone did something, He did it also but better.
19. Impulsive. would buy $500 shoes and $250 belts.
20. 2 jobs but broke all the time.
21. This scared me. We went to the dance floor at a wedding to dance and he put this crazy wide full, fake smile on his face and it really scared me because I had never seen this before and I asked him Why are you smiling like that and he said "where having fun right". WTF???
I was never able to get that out of my head.
22. at family functions he would pick one person and joke and make fun of that person for hours if he had an audience, all under the pretense of having fun. (mean).
He claimed to have changed after prison. Got 2 jobs went to school and looked like a really nice guy to the outside world. I really thought he changed until he started cheating again. on the internet, the phone. started abusing me again. started drinking and smoking again. all of these things he hid from everyone but I knew all of the secrets.
Now that he is gone do you think that he will change for the better? OH he told me that he had an eating disorder because of me. (he became a fat arse)
Is this a psycho or narcissist or just plain crazy and how could I not see these awful things. He had me believing he was the creme of the crop. He always said that he was a standup guy.???
Oh yes
Scotchy71
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You WERE living with a
Thank you Briseis
Briseis
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P & N?
thanks Agnesmurphy17
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Trauma bond
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Sounds definitely like a psychopath
Susan32
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YES
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I KNOW
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OMG
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