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#1 Oct 16 - 3AM
time_to_move_on
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dating after narcissists

I split up with a narcissist after a year (my story explains it on the share your story bit). I've been seeing someone else, I knew it was too soon but guess I thought it would be fine.

I just feel depressed. I keep thinking about my narc (there is no way I'd ever go back and fully NC). This guy is very different, not a narcissist, he's kind but I'm getting irritated. I know we're not suited and think I rushed in. Plus, he's good friends with an old friend of mine (this old friend lived with us as kids, he was like my brother back then) who I'm pretty sure is either a narcissist or a sociopath, and for some reasons that is driving me a bit nuts. I try and keep this old friend at a distance despite our history, and have cut him out of my life at various points.

Do you need a big break after being with a narcissist? I kept thinking it may make me feel better to have some fun, plus I'm fairly sure my ex has moved on straight away. Guessing I should just sort my feelings and myself out instead of rushing?

Oct 16 - 6AM
Barbara (not verified)
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time to move on!

at LEAST 18 months at LEAST 18 months of THERAPY read: HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN before you even accept a date. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Oct 16 - 6AM (Reply to #2)
time_to_move_on
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thanks....

I'll buy the book Barbara, will go on Amazon today. In my life in general I tend to think, "oh, let's just see what happens". I feel as if men choose me not the other way around, which is not good when I go out with some of the people I've been involved in. Need to spot the signs and get a backbone and do what is best for me. And apologies, I posted this twice by accident, my browser acting up.
Oct 16 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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never never

be a target. NEVER predators smell you MILES away! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.