Did anyone else feel like their relationship was like Father/Daughter?

I think in some ways I was attracted to him because he was kinda indifferent and may have reminded me of my father... But our relationship in many ways resembled a mother/son relationship. Me caring for him. His mother was/is cold and selfish to the core.

Although it would seem like a perfect set up for the N, remember that it isn't all about the sex, polygamists have multiple wives (meaning multiple woman who are their responsibility). Truthfully I think this set up would truly repulse a Narcissist who does't want to be responsible for the needs of anyone but himself. I think a scenario that actually appeals to them better is to consider themself as a King and these women as subjects (think Henry VIII).

The ex-Psych professor used the teacher/student relationship as an excuse to emotionally abuse me. After the D&D, I told him, "I guess since you're the teacher, that means you can trample on your students' feelings and treat them however you want?" It kinda shocked him. Since I was the one who had declared my love, I was the one who had "acted inappropriately",so he'd publicly rebuke me till I was in tears. He'd lecture me endlessly. After the D&D, I told him, "All you had to say was that you already had a girlfriend, you did NOT have to constantly lecture me." Throughout the D&D, I'd keep my distance, but he'd hunt me down and say "Did you learn your lesson?" I was CONSTANTLY apologizing, even when I was the one crying. He acted as if my declaration of love were some sort of humiliation. He'd say "I'm offended/I'm embarrassed/I'm disappointed." The first time I told him I loved him... he wouldn't look me in the eyes and coldly said "I'm offended." Being empathic, I'd say "I care about you. Why are you SO ANGRY?" He'd deny being angry, but I'd sense his anger. Towards the end, I was faking my apologies and saying "I'm sorry I'm human, I'm sorry I have feelings" or in a condescending way "You're always right, I'm always wrong, because you're the teacher." I told him I was SICK of being the only one apologizing. I tried to corner him into apologizing. I wasn't above using the carrot/stick method for apologies. I dangled NS before him, saying I'd go back to admiring him if he apologized. But he didn't go for it. He couldn't even fake an apology. When I congratulated him on being engaged, he threw a fit, saying I was "violating" him. By then, I didn't care how I was treating him. I saw his boundaries as nothing but to be crossed at will. And he could cross my boundaries like you can enter North Korea.

My xhn did all of this to me as well, including calling me "sweetie" and cuddling his daughter under a blanket while trying to grope me at the same time. It was revolting and creepy to me, too. I also would wake up sometimes on the weekends alone in the bed. When I'd go to see where N was, he'd be in bed with his oldest daughter snuggling. Uck. Never the youngest one, just the oldest. I don't necessarily think there was anything sexual going on between them, but it smacked of emotional incest to me. I, also, think that like you, sunflowergrl, that my xnh was trying to cause a rivalry. I think he just LOVED the drama. In fact, N's oldest daughter and my xnh's constant enabling her was a big contributing factor in my finally saying "enough" and throwing his butt out the door when he threatened me with divorce one too many times. She's a pregnant junkie involved with gangs to this day, and to this day N is still totally obsessed with her. I find their relationship to be very gross and sick. He GROSSLY favors her over his youngest daughter (and always has). Of course, she's thoroughly happy with herself that she helped split us up. My xh in an N. I, also, think his oldest daughter is a P. They're pretty close to a matched set.

I was 18 when I met the ex-Psych professor. He was 32. At the time of the D&D, I was 22 and he was 36 (plus looking old for his age,he did not age gracefully) He D&D'd a 22 year old for a 32 year old.

i guess i was more like a dog too, good point.