Did N say this to you?

.....during his last attempted D&D, I was crying painfully like a little broken girl, because It all hit me and I knew what he was doing (again), breaking my heart, throwing me away like garbage..so I was emotinally breaking down (again)..he said " I want to speak to the adult, not the child please" FUCK YOU ASSHOLE! Fuck you for telling me that I couldnt be the broken child, that child needs a hug, needs to be heard, needs to be loved. FUCK YOU!( I wish I could of said that to him, instead..I just apologized like an idiot!) I am sorry for the language everyone, this by far is the most angriest memory of mine. How DARE him, tell me to quiet my inner child, when he has tortured , provolked, and discarded her so much to that extent. I hate who he is.

His last attempt to D&D me, I say attempt because he said if I get therapy and change the way I think about him, then I can come back to him...LMMAO..can you believe this?! What happened was that..he was talking to OW, and I called him on it, and he said that I had to change my way of thinking about it. He said I was too insecure, but he never mentioned how he HID all his female "friends", and didnt tell me anything about them. Creating paranoia, and insecurity. But, no it was clearly me, my fault for seeing what was in front of my eyes. he told the therapist I was the abuser, and that I fit every catagory of abuser. Projection much? I wont ever forget how he, and the therapist were laughing in my face as I was explaining the abuse he put me through. The therpaist said , I was giving him too much credit, and maybe it wasnt the way I seen it. Geshhh, what a blow to my heart, seriously! And how am I suppose to even trust the next therapist? He had her seduced long before I got there, my psych teacher said its wrong to counsel a couple after you were counseling an individual. But you can counsel a couple, then individuals. See, I didnt even know that. But, I am a little wiser now. I told her that I had a mental breakdown and ended up in a ward for a night, he had to interupt me, and say I GOT HER OUT, and he gloated. Yes, he had to look good for the therapist..ahh what a nice guy got his crazy GF out the ward, he is so sweet. No she didnt even realize that the stress and violence he displayed that night PUT ME THERE. I may have been blind for 8 years, but that last day on Oct. 13th, when I last saw him in the therapist office, I will not forget. I saw all his TRUE colors come out. And the empty shell he really is. Also, not to mention all the times, he would say something and then turn around andsay he did not say it. I had to start keeping notes, he raged on me for writing shit down, but I had to keep myself sane somehow!

Yes, He said I should consult experts, and implied that I had some kind of mental issue. He called me "Histrionic," and then later denied even knowing what the word meant. (Probably because it is part of his diagnosis!) I have since consulted an expert who told me to run like hell, don't look back, don't contact, and consider myself lucky to have recognized is NPD. Classic cases of projection!

According to him, I had "issues" and needed help. He was constantly suggesting mental health counseling. Sometimes he would suggest a physician because I clearly had severe PMS. He said I "picked fights" because of my PMS/ issues/ psychosis. Whatevs, Short Dick Man. What really happened is that he would pull some shitty stunt (stealing my things, ignoring me with the Silent Treatment, criticizing my appearance, telling me how i wasnt Christian enough for him, not good enough, being 45 minutes late for a date, no apologies ever, etc, etc) and I would call him out on his behavior and tell him I didn't think it was right or respectful. Oh my mental health! I'm so unstable! How dare I speak up for myself! The only people who do that have "issues" don't you know! I wish to god I had gone for that counseling. My only issues were trying to change a narcissist into an empathetic person who treated me with respect. I think a counselor could have persuaded me to get out. The one time Short Dick Man was right about anything. Go figure.

he said as much about himself. very knowledgeable fuck.

my N said this to me repeatedly but during the D&D this hurt me the most I had just caught him for the millionth time lying about who he was texting "its my sister saying hey brother whats up" it was a girl at his work texting him because HE gave his number to her....when confronted he said the above about it being his sister. within five minutes he was handed garbage bags and was coldly told to leave and that we are done he says this to me "your believing what you want to believe" "your picking her and what she says over the one who loves you" after he left to drive back to denver i get this because i stayed in touch with him one phone convo ..one him "i have something to tell you" me"ok" him" your right i did give her my number, but i thought she was cool someone we could hang out with, she told me she had a bf" seven days after this phone call i got seven days of silent treatment then i got this said to me when i literally blew up his phone "what happened to my angel, that sweet loving person i fell in love with" "i dont want to be with you anymore , you need counseling blueworld" "you cant even control your emotions anymore" "your upset all the time, im not your father im not your ex boyfriends" "i dunno i just dont let shit bother me i let it just roll off me" "go get some help blueworld, you need it" "no one likes you my family hates you your the biggest joke over here" .............dialtone

Read up on Projection.. You need to move past His " scrambled Eggs" I know you are processing the D&D once you understand this.. What he said becomes irreverent! Hunter

He told me I was crazy all the time. Anytime I would get upset about his behavior, I was starting drama, I was insecure, I needed help. Any help would do. He begged me to go to a theripists, a pastor, anything. I went to both. (Actually two different therapists and a pastor.) They all pointed me in directions away from him! He would then blame them for everything, saying that they were filling my head with craziness. He really hates woman. He would generalize how woman are emotional wrecks. He would tell people to never marry an American woman. She won't cook and clean as well as the other ones. He also called men, woman when they showed emotion or weakness or laziness. He's a sick *^#%! Thank you life for getting me out of that! I'm free!

Yes of course He always says "All women are crazy" He asked all his hundreds of women to seek help cos they are all depressed, mentally unstable, depressed, crazy etc etc The reality is he is the crazy one.

When they say it, it's projection of their beliefs about themselves. If we start to consider that maybe there is something wrong with us because the N said so, it's projective identification. Typical NPD mindfuck behavior.

He did tell me those lines :)) They were his favorites. He used to enrage me and then ''spit'' those words into my face. Blue Mist

I need meds to correct whatever "imbalance" I have...my reply to that was... "I've really given this a lot of thought and I think I need to go on a diet to help with my self-esteem...I seem to have picked up 180 POUNDS OF DEAD WEIGHT that is dragging me down".

YES .. i was sent to a shrink..who was frankly told that I was psychotic, neurotic, had a personality disorder, was unduly Suspicious sort...and that I could get 'Violent' if provoked...utter crap. and when the shrink met me, i was told (by the shrink)...that there was absolutely nothing wrong with me...and that it might perhaps be best for me if i exited the marriage... i was also told that nh would get worse in the coming years and i would find myself further cornered... i was told that if i had no other option, and was compelled to remain in the crappy marriage...then my best bet would be to shut up and ask no questions. did my shrink know about npd? ...this was way back in 2001. well, about 10 months after the episode of the shrink taking my side...suddenly she lost her job, and status in the fraternity,... nh is vindictive..OH YES...and in such an underhand way...only today...a decade later...i am putting two-and-two together.

The N used to tell me that I needed help. When I found him lying and time and time again, I'd break down as I got to the point I felt worn down and exhausted. One of the last things he said to me was that I need anti- depressants. He did the same to his ex. He was having an affair. His gf at the time was also worn down and cracking up. He brainwashed her into thinking she was going crazy and that she needed psychiatric help. It wasn't until the last minute before her first meeting with Dr, he confessed and said it was all him, she wasn't crazy. He needs the help. He signed himself into a nut house two years ago, he needs to piss off back in there!!