Do Narcissists know that they are narcissists?
Do Narcissists know that they are narcissists?
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/scott-barry-kaufman/do-narcissists-know-th...
According to this particular research, they do. I always thought they did. The ones I have been with know it and embrace it as the article states. The only ones who seems to struggle with the truth are addict Narcs. They "know" that they are superior beings, even when they are living in the gutter, yet they amazingly are in complete denial regarding their addictions.
The article also states that they do NOT change unless it benefits them from a self promoting level. This certainly validates all that we have learned on here and as Lisa states in her first book, her husband TOLD her he was a Narc.
Therefore, if they know they are Narcs, they embrace it, and they have no particular need or desire to change, then:
WE need to look good and hard at these facts.
What is the need to stay with someone who cause you to suffer over and over again?
Let go of the notion that they are ever going to change or get better, it rarely or never happens.
Realize that there is someone out there much better than this whom we can actually ENJOY life with; intead of the constant pain, lies, manipulation, and mind games.
What is keeping us stuck?
What more do we really need to know?
What can we do to change the thing in us which keeps us going back or keeps us blaming ourselves for this horrific failed relationship?
The Steps of recovery and sharing what it is in us which wants them so badly?
What can we do to stop the insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.
I was prompted to write this over the background check post. I have checked all of their backgrounds and apparently it made no difference; I still was hooked until I had had enough. No ammount of information about them, the OW, their pathetic pasts, seems to be the key to getting away from them. The key appears to lie in self love, self worth, and as they say in AA; just getting sick and tired of being sick and tired and one day you just wake up and say: THIS IS IT; I'VE HAD ENOUGH!!!
It is NOT your fault.
You did not cause or create this.
They were sick LONG before YOU came alone and will remain sick long after you are gone.
The OW does NOT have a better time of it than we did. If anything they only get worse with each new failed relationship; they don't learn and grow from their mistakes like "healthy" people do they simply become better cons.
When I first met my last Narc; I was lonely and broken over something else and he leaped on the opportunity to lure me in and I never saw it coming until I was hooked.
The truth of the matter is that he is no damn good and why would I want such a sick twisted element in my life?
It has taken me months to at long last realize and accept that they know they are Narcs, they have NO desire to change, and they will continue to create havoc and destruction wherever they go and YES: THIS WAS NOT MY FAULT. No matter WHAT they say and it is all a con to keep us down. WE are NOT less than; if anything we are morethan. They just love to keep us down so we lose site of our true potential for life, living, and attracting healthy loving people into our lives.
God bless,
Goldie
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GOLDIE