does anyone know the legal remedy for this one

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#1 Feb 1 - 8PM
reneek
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does anyone know the legal remedy for this one

So my daughter is 2 and today my nanny told me she said that her daddy told her "mommy told him to go away and leave" Then she told me tonight that she is going visit Daddy in DC. I asked who told her this and she said "J" -- that is the other daughter, half sister who is a budding narcissist because of all he's done and her mother's inability to do anything to protect her. Also, we are in conflict over her going to Florida and he told her all about Florida and told her to "talk to your mother." This is sick -- she is 2 and this is only going to get worse ... anyone know what I can do? Am going to court on Friday ...

Feb 2 - 11AM
itreallyisabouthim
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I'm right there with you. I

I'm right there with you. I am perhaps getting our daughter into therapy. I can't afford a psych eval (upwards of $8K) but I am hoping our 4 year old will be able to convey the sort of stuff he says. The week before last, she announced to me "If I were a mom, I would never put my baby in daycare". Sick F*** told her that.
Feb 2 - 2PM (Reply to #10)
Barbara (not verified)
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itreallyisabout him

Absolutely put your child in therapy! IMMEDIATELY anyone who has kids and is "co-parenting" with an N should have their children in therapy. Unfortunately if you want supervised parenting you will have to get a psych eval. And your child's therapist can't do anything for you in court, only a psych eval/ forensic psychologist can do that. ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Feb 2 - 2PM (Reply to #11)
itreallyisabouthim
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Really? I thought what the

Really? I thought what the child says in therapy could count in court even in the absence of a psych eval. I would actually wish it to be otherwise. I don't want his side twisting around what she says, and I know they will. They're already trying to make it look like the bite mark that the baby sustained on his watch last week was possibly done while I had her. This is a gut wrenching process where the kids are the last ones who are considered.
Feb 2 - 4PM (Reply to #12)
Barbara (not verified)
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custody & therapy

speak to your lawyer - but from what I know - NO. The therapist can NOT be questioned in court, the psych evaluator can question them as part of the evaluation. But the therapist can not testify in court as per: client/ therapist privilege. However, you definitely SHOULD & MUST get your child into counseling to help them deal with the creep. VITAL READ: http://deltabravo.net/custody/guide.php you need to be IN CHARGE - I STRONGLY suggest you get some definite answers from your lawyer. Spending money now for an evaluation can save you heartache in the future. If they're already playing 'it happened on your watch' games - this may not be a choice, it may be a must! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Feb 2 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
reneek
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that is scary

I am just amazed at how they can teach hate and anger. I teach her to share, to love, to collaborate, to pray, to believe in God and to forgive and he teaches her anger and hate -- this is going to be hard. I do keep praying God will be kind to her and take him from this planet. I do hope he is one of those 50 somethings that had a sudden heart attack or something. I hate that I feel that way, but I just want him to die.

a woman learning to love again

Feb 2 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
rache
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Natural

Narcissist are just too evil to be breathing the same air as us,but,they're here for a reason,but,what????????????
Feb 2 - 10PM (Reply to #9)
Barbara (not verified)
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evil

because we need a challenge spiritually on this earth, IMHO pathologicals are, IMHO - pure & unadulterated evil. They are breathing the same air as us... but they are not us by any stretch of the imagination ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Feb 2 - 9PM (Reply to #8)
reneek
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kind of the same reasons mosquitos exist

to annoy and pester, but they add absolutely no value to the ecosystem whatsoever !!

a woman learning to love again

Feb 2 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
itreallyisabouthim
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Good question. I guess as

Good question. I guess as matter needs anti-matter to define it, good needs evil to define it as well? Grasping at straws here. I have no idea why or if they're necessary.
Feb 2 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
itreallyisabouthim
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Wishing him harm

I know that we are not supposed to speak that way but this is a totally natural mama bear reaction to having our cub messed with. My STBX has an uncle who suddenly passed away at 50. Thanks for reminding me :)
Feb 1 - 10PM
Barbara (not verified)
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reneek

this is Parental Alienation. you MUST speak to your lawyer immediately and have an order put on that he can't speak to the child this way and neither can the 1/2 sister. document document document get that Psych Evaluation on him (they will do you too, don't worry) and say you want SUPERVISED VISITATION if he can't stop from saying this harmful crap to the child. And make SURE the divorce, if possible, is with CAUSE: MENTAL CRUELTY!!!!!! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Feb 2 - 6AM (Reply to #2)
reneek
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thanks Barbara

I thought it was PAS. We didn't divorce unfortunately -- we never met. I left him for mental cruelty. His ex-wife divorced him for mental cruelty, but those documents were locked up and are not public. Also, he has convinced her that I am out to get the other daughter (who was the love of my life) and now she and I don't talk and she hates me. We used to be great friends and that worried him. My attorney told last week to wait on the psych evals. She just picked up the case and said that she knew it was something that would happen, but to use it at the most appropriate place to get the most for it. I am hoping he will ask for a psych eval because if he does he pays and if one is ordered for me one will be ordered for him. This is good stuff though. It is parental alienation and I was thinking supervised visits -- she also came back not wanting to speak to one of her grandmothers and said her daddy said she was not nice.

a woman learning to love again