Dog Custody

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#1 Mar 4 - 6PM
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Dog Custody

He wanted the dog to travel with our daughter. But the logistics increased the # of times he would come to the house...and I did not want to wait around every other Friday for him.
He tried for several weeks to come by on Fridays with my daughter to get thr dog. If I was not home, then he would come by Saturdays. I endured countless e-mails stating I stole his property. The dog was bought for our daughter's birthday.
I told him he could decide where the dog stays permanently.
At first he said no, he couldn't have the dog where he lives. My daughter wants the dog to stay with me because she is with me more days.
Three weeks later he filed papers with the court for the dog.
I told him he could have the dog...just wait until we leave for our trip.
Here is his e-mail......
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If that is how you want to proceed, then fine. You can drop off Daisy (the dog) at J's on that Friday. I will give you then the vet bill amount and we will sign an agreement that this is how we settled this matter.
I want to stress again that it was never my intention to have Daisy excluded 2 out of 3 days from C's(daughter) life. Although I am anxious to bring this to a conclusion, I am having a hard time with us not being able to deliver on the original, if not the modified weekend agreement.
I look forward to Daisy being back in my life.
Enjoy the day, M

P.S. I will have to pay you the Lowe's bill when my checks arrive the second week of April. With other large exepnditures to pay this month, including G's last compensation, I have no other option. I know you understand.
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Analyze that!

Mar 4 - 6PM
moving on
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petty

He is extremely childish and wants things his way. Also very familiar hearing the "I'll pay you later" excuse with no deliverables. Do whatever it takes to keep him out of your life and just in your daughter's as much as she needs him to have both parents. Try to move on with your life by doing what makes you happy. Good luck!
Mar 4 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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what a petty idiot

sounds like he's now using the dog to 'stalk' you and keep you in his loop of pain. Why not say to him "if you want the dog permanently, fine - but there's no reason to deal with this on & off thing." Yes, I know you love the dog (I adored mine) but I would bet this calls him on this 'trying to rope you back in to abuse you more' B.S. It's ridiculous. Why doesn't he adopt his own dog? It's like he wants to still take pieces of you away when he can. It's a game. He wants all the fun and NONE of the responsibility. Let him know the dog is an all or nothing deal. Pay you now, or else. What a jerk! ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 5 - 7PM (Reply to #10)
agnesmurphy17
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Barbara's Right

He's using this dog to get to you. But, wasn't there an e-mail exchange posted where he couldn't have the dog, then he could, then he didn't want the dog? Give him the dog. You'll look great to the judge as being generous & not petty in response to his motion for dog custody. Then the judge can focus on the real issue--child support! Sorry for your loss. A dog is a family member. But, this is the price of your sanity.
Mar 4 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
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how about..

the line about how glad he will be to have the dog back in his life?? He wanted the urn from his previous dog that was buried in my backyard. Two days before that e-mail he actually filed a lawsuit in family court for the dog. My lawyer & I are seeking the "honk & seatbelt rule"--he honks when he comes to pick up or drop off my daughter & keeps his seatbelt on. Also for him to pay for a court-appt therapist for my child & to have his living arrangements checked. The guy he is living with sells porn & sex toys plus has a gun collection. My dear C is only 6 1/2...
Mar 5 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
ForeverLearning
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Sells Porn and Sex Toys

The guy he is living with SELLS porn and sex toys. The guy he is living with SELLS PORN AND SEX TOYS. THE GUY HE IS LIVING WITH SELLS PORN AND SEX TOYS! Oh God, I really don't like the sound of that. Does the judge know about this? Could anyone check out this roommate guy for previous sex offender history? Could your attorney insist his history be checked? Maybe question this guys ex-spouse? Sorry to alarm you, it's just that I am alarmed for your 6 year olds safety being in the same household as this roommate person. It just doesnt sound good to me. Did someone mention something about a dog? I'm sorry I lost track of the whole dog issue when I heard roommate sells porn and sex toys.
Mar 6 - 1AM (Reply to #9)
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yes... the sex stuff

It's not He sels athe "pleasure parties for ladies" that's out there. You all know...the private parties held like tupperware stuff where it's a group of married/single ladies just trying to spice of their intimate sex life. he sells all kinds. I will admit I did contact him to get a wholesale price for a toy for me. (Cost conscience) At the time we were married. And it was something I could use alone or together. My intent was to help me feel more sexual for exN. BOY did I get yelled at for buying something!! from exN
Mar 6 - 1AM (Reply to #7)
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dog.. yes there was an

dog.. yes there was an exchange---"I can't ask J to keep the dog full time." then " J said it was ok...but I can't do that to our daughter". then the lawsuit.... Oh, I am going after the porn salesman as his homeowner/roomate. J (the Porn sales guy) has never been married. So he never had to "confine & secure" his items. Plus if you google the business name--it comes up under motorcycle repair... Look, I'm not a prude, but I do agree with boundaries. If my parents ever used videos or toys to help their sex life..I NEVER KNEW when I was a kid. Maybe I could ask as a 40yr old...but why??? My daughter willingly says "Daddy is mean." And when he calls each night to "say" goodnight (never care while we were married)she says--"I don't like talking to him. but I like talking to you." As for the dog...it has a sweet temperment, but she barks too much & is destructive. (lost a pair of shoes today) Her potty training is spotty. (When he was here, she jumped on him while he was asleep & peed.) She's been better since he moved out,but she still chews stuff. His claim of ownership is that he signed the breeder's papers. Well, since the intent ws a gift for our daughter, one parent had to stay home while another drove to CA. for the dog. I have heard that #1 it's VERY stressful for dogs to go back & forth btwn homes. Dogs feel secure with one home & one owner. I'm kinda glad to give up the dog. Plus I wonder.... he's "so concerned that his daughter is without her dog for 2 days"...but he could care less if she misses the 2 cats!!! I can get my own puppy :)
Mar 6 - 2PM (Reply to #8)
agnesmurphy17
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Bye-Bye Doggie

Now if only you could get rid of that dog of a man!
Mar 4 - 11PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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michvegas

there should be a few UNANNOUNCED checks... this whole thing doesn't sound good. he's being manipulative and INSANE. ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 4 - 10PM (Reply to #4)
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I kinda laugh.. because he

I kinda laugh.. because he said my daughter would be stressed not being with her dog on the 2 days with her Ndad...yet it's OK for her to miss my cats....