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DON'T KNOW IF THIS TOPIC HAS EVER COME UP, MINE HAD THE WORST

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#1 Nov 22 - 8AM
truthseeker
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DON'T KNOW IF THIS TOPIC HAS EVER COME UP, MINE HAD THE WORST

taste in decor.He dressed well but his decorating was ghastly. Nothing flowed or made sense.BTW one of the things he said when he talked about me moving in, was you can decorate however you want. (I had never told hom what I thought of his taste. In fact I never said anything deragatory towards him.Until we were done.)the closer it got to me moving in he said you can't do anything without asking me. I never moved in . ( refer to my story)

Nov 23 - 7AM
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my place vs his place

he lived in a shared house, and had only a room. He didn't have a proper bed, nothing matched, he didn't clean. Everything was old and shabby. I don't mind that, but I want to keep my place cozy and clean But he was very critical about my place. He practicly forced me to buy new furniture, wanted me to keep the place spic & span but didn't help. But I guess this is really typical N behaviour, right? :-)
Nov 22 - 8PM
Susan32
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Total blandness

I never saw the ex-P's apartment... I never felt safe enough with him to go to his place. I did, however, see his office. It was barely decorated, very spartan, nothing distinctive or personal. It seemed to embody "this is what a philosopher's office is supposed to look like." Nothing distinctive, nothing colorful. Maybe only one photo. There were books. It was mainly brown, black, tan, neutral colors. It was so impersonal and cold it could've doubled as one of those furniture displays at a furniture store. All it needed were price tags :0
Nov 22 - 6PM
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subject of decor

He and I almost bought a house together on 3 different occasions, God must having been looking out for me each time, the third time we went to a realtor and i put the earnest money down, and when he went to the house with the realtor already there to have a second look, my EXN brought his legal yellow paper with him with the list of all the improvements he wanted to make and I looked at him in disbelief and asked why he did not go over things with me first. He just looked at me dismissively and said you would of had a fit, damn right i would have, there was some partnership, yessiree....................the one time he lived with me it was my place and as far as his taste went, 99.9% of my stuff was donated to goodwill to make room for all his stuff,he knew NO BOUNDARIES, literally and figuratively. Love the decor of your EXN Betty, "drifters style", very impressive and funny to boot!!!!
Nov 22 - 11AM
truthseeker
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example of his taste

fake silk flowers everywhere. YOu know the ones from the 80's. The mauves and magentas. He had some dusty potpourri in his bedroom he wouldn't let me get rid of because and ex had given it to him. I mean dusty. This guy had money and no taste.
Nov 22 - 10AM
betty2020
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My xNs taste in decor

My xNs taste in decor consisted of a stained mattress on the floor and a computer set up at the end of the mattress for easy access to all his perversions. WTF was I thinking? RED ALERT RED ALERT RED ALERT! He claimed he never bought furniture b/c it was to much of a problem to move and he never knew when he would have to move. RED ALERT RED ALERT RED ALERT!!! only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 22 - 10AM (Reply to #10)
sickandtiredofit
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Hells yeah

Mattress onthe floor - sheets for curtain and Ihad cheap bad taste, really?
Nov 22 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
betty2020
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I guess we both missed out

I guess we both missed out on that "Drifters Style" decor. Must have been before my time. They need to go back to where they belong....Under a bridge in a cardboard box. (not mocking the homeless :)) only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 22 - 10AM (Reply to #11)
sickandtiredofit
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oh oh and get this

Empty wine bottles he used with his ex for candle holders. His Narc father actually brought some when he visted and let me know where they came from. F them all!
Nov 22 - 9AM
helldweller
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decor

He asked my opinion about everything for "our" new house he was building. Then he started installing totally different stuff from what we had picked out together. First it was the blue lights in the kitchen, then the wrought iron chandelier in the dining room, then totally different paint colors than we'd chosen. He claimed we hadn't actually finalized anything, and that it was all "easily changed to whatever you want, honey." Yeah, right! I'm a French country, Shabby Chic kind of girl. I should have known when he installed manogany kitchen cabinets instead of the light blue ones we chose together--or stained the floors the darkest shade he could find--or painted the bedroom red! I always wonder if he uses both of the sinks in "our" bathroom.
Nov 22 - 9AM
desprathousewife
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truthseeker

I'd like to think mine had GREAT taste, he chose ME! lol Not really sure about mine's taste to be honest, he'd gutted his house when I met him and we did it up together. I chose everything and he did the messy work :) Now his whole abode REEKS of my taste. When I ended it one time he said he would have to move because everything reminded him of me. MOVE THEN DAMNIT!!!! lol
Nov 22 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
blueeyes
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Goodness!!

You guys are funny! My XN was horrible with the house. He didn't work so he stayed home and rearranged my stuff and sometimes throw it out! Jerk. When he was high on percocet, I would come home to ridiculous sports memorabilia hung on the wall in place of a nice mirror I had there. I'd ask "where is my mirror?" He would say "somewhere". Gee thanks. Oh the horrible memories of his decor. The day I admitted him in the mental hospital I got rid of trashbags full of his nothingness. It was such a great feeling. Good riddens!
Nov 22 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
sickandtiredofit
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oh boy

Was he pawning your stuff?
Nov 23 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
helldweller
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sickandtiredofit

I just saw this and had to tell you something I forgot. The weekend of the last birthday of the narc's foster child, I saw him going into his house, alone, with a huge bag full of wrapped presents. We were fighting because he wouldn't let my daughters and I participate in the child's birthday for some reason. I went over to him and sneered, "Who are the presents for? Our little girls?" He said, "The are for E." I said, "Oh, when's the party?" He said, "We already had it. They are from friends." So it turns out they were from the OW, who flew in for the birthday but wasn't allowed to come. They had a big fight in the hotel room, and she gave him this huge bag of gifts she had brought on the plane. He went to the hotel after the party to have sex with her, and she threw him out of the room, so he had come home by himself with the presents. (So nuts to look back on it now and think that THAT is what was happening.) But anyway, a few days later, the narc and his brother were leaving the house with a huge bag of stuff. We had made up, and I said, "Where are you going?" He said, "To return some gifts." I swear the slime bucket never even let the child open the presents. He just opened them himself and returned everything for the cash! A six -year-old orphan's birthday presents!
Nov 23 - 7AM (Reply to #7)
Susan32
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Taking advantage of kids...

That's truly truly sick. When Ns/Ps victimize children, it's truly revolting. That slime ball SAYS how much he loves his orphan... and won't let the orphan enjoy his birthday gifts??? Yuck....
Nov 22 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
blueeyes
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sickandtiredofit

Who knows? I doubt it, it was a potted plant, mirror or dumb stuff that cluttered his OCD. I would see them in the trash and take it out.
Nov 23 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
sickandtiredofit
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Blueeyes...

I wonder why they only have OCD when it comes to our stuff - he picks up little tiny scrap of anything off of the floor when I am cooking and having had a chance to clean yet. He tolds it up as if it is a nugget of gold and he is inspecting it for value, meanwhile hr drops his drawers, shoes, sock whatever, where ever whenever? Geroge Carlin's bit only cracked him up becasue it was tru for him "My stuff is stuff, your stuff is SH#T" so true.