The ex husband Narc...too nice

I was married to my exhn for 12 years....(he is not as psychotic as the recent narc I just left).

Ever since I left the recent one (whom is the reason Im on here)...the exhc...has been very supportive and friendly...During my time living with the recent narc, my exhn was very mean...malicious...used the kids as pawns..pumped them for information...But NOW...he is like a different person.

Im not stupid...I know he is doing this to show me how much better of a man he IS compared to the recent narc...Always a competition with these guys....He has to show me how wonderful of a person...how caring...understanding...compassionate of a person he is now....to punish me for leaving him!! And honestly...although he is and will always be the love of my life...I dont have any emotional bond with him...I never look at him and sigh...wishing we were together...NEVER! I can only take him in small doses...he gets under my skin if he's around me too long which validates my divorcing him...

He appears to be a good father (all for show)...but my oldest who is 9 already sees the criticism...condesending nature of his father toward me and also toward him...my son says to me the other day,.."Mom..I cant do anything right? Dad is always yelling at me!" I tried to tell the narc to go easy on him,..im told to mind my business...

I see him a great deal...and when he is normal...it feels good to have my "old friend" back...we did have a lot of good times...and we are now able to enjoy the kids together.

Im able to put him in his place now....cause I dont have to live with him. But Im crying right now because he still gets hurtful....follows it with the "im just joking" line....

Im crying because I just got a text from him...saying he was sorry for being a jerk yesterday (said some things...said he was joking) When he does this I cut him off...He told me...that he promises to be the least of my worries...how he understands that between what I just went thru with my exn, my Mom passing a year ago, the holidays..that I am hurting and he feels bad...REALLY??? NOW??? HE FEELS BAD???? Why couldnt he be like this when we were married.

He was 300lbs...lazy...never wanted to do anything..go anywhere...imprisoned me in my own home!!
Now...he lost 70lbs...lives in the gym (the gym I had joined when we were married and asked him to join with me but was rejected)...had his teeth whitened...goes out all the time....WTF???

Never gave a shit when we were married...NOW he cares...SCREW HIM!!