Is this as full of bullshit as I think?

to any further contact with this beast. What you describe here is classic. Textbook behavior. Supply is low so he's back to recycle you. Your disorientation will cease when you cease contact with him. He does not deserve to have your time or attention. You do not deserve nor desire to be spoken to in this way. He can "talk to the hand." Close the door and you will find peace of mind. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. BECAUSE I'M NO CONTACT AND LIKE IT THAT WAY!

It makes me angry just to read what the guy said to you... this is utter BS with a mean hurtful subtext. Trust your gut feeling! Basically, he is blaming you for the end of the relationship (bc you told him he's a narc) as well as telling you how the OW was so much "better" than you bc she taught him how to love - thus challenging you to take him back and prove him wrong. Do you see how this is manipulation? He is telling you how he has "changed" and how he wants you back, and at the same time guilt-tripping you and rubbing in the pain. And please don't buy his BS about it being a "spiritual thing" with the OW... it makes me feel sick (I had an ex like that). The guy just got bored after 14 yrs and wanted some excitement, so he went out and got it without ANY regard for YOUR feelings, and now that she dumped him he desperately needs supply and suddenly remembers his nice comfortable nest and wants to see if he can have it back. Please don't allow yourself to be sucked back in and become his doormat! If you take him back, you will signal that you are weak and willing to fall for BS apologies and this will give him permission to go off with another OW whenever he feels like it because he now knows that he'll have you to fall back on. You don't seem sure that he's a Narc yet and you also don't sound very angry, so yes, you probably are in danger of falling back into his trap. The only way to avoid this is NC! You let the guy into your house several days in a row, this is an invitation for him and he will try everything to get you back (into bed at least). I hope you will have the strength to keep him out - you will only regret it and feel humiliated and even hate yourself if you give in. Keep your pride and protect yourself! NJ

Ok.. So what do you want?? Do you like the " scrambled eggs" talk?? You like being compared to OW?? Then stay and keep doing what you're doing... NC is the recommended treatment.... Hunter

Big BS, indeed. I've heard a lot, but this one gets some kind of taking-the-cake award. Please do not let him near or into your house again. You said, "I just don't feel like being around him." That is your inner voice screaming to be heard. You heard, but are you listening. Honestly, what a load of crap. Let him "hurt". He came back to you for one reason: He is short on supply and wants a hit. Don't let him use you. You deserve so much better. I'm sorry this has set you back. Take a deep breath and get going again on the difficult, but beautiful, journey back to yourself. Stay strong and kick him to the curb. You said, "to me it feels like he is being hurtful but when i look at him its like he sees through me and he doesn't know what hurt is." He does not. He will not. Ever. Stay strong. Adoette

nomoredenial, you must not allow him back. narc disorder is not curable. read plenty of sam vaknin and you will make you firm decision. it is fortunate you were rid of him. if you are not financially dependent on him, then please say NO and do NC. Get a restraining order if he is not obeying your order to go away. these PD sap our energy and peace of mind. Happiness comes ONLY after we can manage to be completely RID of them. please don't do any experimentation. r/s with PD cannot work. it is not good for us.