Grateful.....

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#1 Dec 17 - 6AM
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Grateful.....

For everyone who feels completely lost and hurt I wanted to just say hang in there.

2 years ago I didn't think life could throw much more shit at me. I'd been bereaved, relationship of 9 years ended and my daughter had an eating disorder, was less than 6 stone and hated herself and life. Dreadfully unhappy kid. Was the wake up call I needed. My ordinary life that I'd spent sweating the small stuff was something I wish I'd taken the time to enjoy because now it could all turn to shit.

I've just picked that same shell of a kid up from her first term of university in London. She's v hungover but, dare I say, happy!! Normal sized healthy albeit untidy and dishevelled, student. And she just text me this whilst she puts up the tree at her dads:

Read this mother
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was...

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was...

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed...

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.
The sand is everything else---the small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18...

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.

The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'
The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers with a friend.

2 years ago i faced the fact i could lose my child by her own hand... it made me realise i had to treasure every minute i had her...Thesedays I'm grateful for my ordinary life. I've listened to the news today and gear that 25 people have been killed in Syria; 20 sets of parents in the US are coming to terms with the unspeakable loss of their children. I'm torn between being so happy that my child is thriving and being desperately sad for the world we live in. It's a hateful cruel place. The best most of us can do is live ordinary lives peacefully. And be grateful for those.

Life hurts. But it's usually after the hurt that we appreciate it more.

Best wishes to everyone who is feeling lost hurt tired and lonely. Embrace it. The other side is not far off if you accept it.

Dec 17 - 12PM
hope29
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This is so true, it really

Dec 17 - 10AM
brinamarie
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"desperately sad for the

Dec 17 - 9AM
shock and awe.some
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This is an inspiration to all of us

Dec 17 - 8AM
HelpMeHeal
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Beautiful post

Dec 17 - 6AM
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