Guilt & Shame While With Or After A Narcissist

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#1 Apr 23 - 5PM
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Guilt & Shame While With Or After A Narcissist

Many tell me in early recovery they feel guilt and shame- Guilt says I did something wrong, but shame says I am something wrong. Why do we feel shame after a narcissist? You don't love yourself- You don't love yourself or the narcissist has caused you to believe there is something wrong with you- It is important to remember- this is what they do- They try to break you down in order to feel superior to you therefore allowing you to become easier to control and manipulate- and they discredit you for similar reasons- They discredit you to keep you trying harder and because often they are trying to gain favor in your circles as well as their own- Narcissists covert that which is closest to them- It is not uncommon for a narcissist to be hitting on your closest associates- why? Simply because they are there- easy close supply and to create triangles in your closest circles which ultimately creates dissension and causes you to feel as though your support system is on shaky ground which of course isolates you from them and allows the narcissist to pull the strings more effectively- Generally by the time you disengage from the narcissist you are questioning everything you ever felt was a sense of comfort and security to you- Many say they have the most trouble forgiving themselves- The more you understand about how they operate and how they sucked you into their black vortex- it becomes easier to forgive yourself realizing you had no control over what you were doing as they were controlling and manipulating you on many levels-

Sending you love and hope for self forgiveness-
Goldie xo