He hates his mother and father

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#1 Mar 24 - 9AM
kizzy72
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He hates his mother and father

Is this a characteristic of someone that is an alcoholic and narcissist to say that they use to hate their parents especially their mother?

Mar 27 - 5PM
gettinbetter
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They hate everyone! But

They hate everyone! But mostly themselves so much so that they invented a whole new self that they are in love with so they are not just out of line with their true self they in fact killed their true self off or mamed it so bad that it no longer has a voice within them
Mar 25 - 7AM
Susan32
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Daddy's Home

The ex-Psych professor had a mixture of hatred&admiration of his parents. It's a common trait of psychopaths that if they say they hate someone, it means that they admire them. When I heard his father on NPR, he claimed he was BETTER than his father because he's a philosopher¬ a scientist. He practically had a jealous fit because I listened to his father (who is also a professor) The ex-P lives in his father's shadow. He was a professor because his father is one. His father is a prolific writer, while the ex-P has barely been published. His father had students who respected&researched with him. I think he was intensely jealous of his father, but also greatly enamored. A year after the D&D, his parents moved in with him. Yes, karma exists.
Mar 25 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
kizzy72
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This is terrible

This should have been a red flag because he told me he hated his mother up until two years ago during our first conversation, as way of trying to make it look as if he understood the issues i had with my father, which were no where near me hating him. I loved my father and my I love my mother dearly. I've taken classes in forensic psychology and most serial killers have issues like this with their mothers, so I should have known better. He is definitely a psychopath.
Mar 25 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
Susan32
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The parental issue

The ex-Psych professor would ask me if I hated my parents. Yes, I've had my issues with them, yes, there's unresolved stuff... but no hatred. Not that. My mother's parents were BOTH Ns... so you can see how that leads to trouble. The ex-P's mother wasn't so much an issue, but ghostly. He didn't talk about her that much. However, he worshipped his father&was head over heels for him. MOST Ns/Ps are mother-enmeshed;I think the ex-P was father-enmeshed. He had the Electra complex rather than the Oedipal one. The ex-P wanted a woman who was a FATHER surrogate... not the usual mother surrogate. His girlfriend was masculine, a scientist... like his Dad.
Mar 24 - 10PM
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This was something my ex

This was something my ex whatever-he-was and I had in common. I remember he asked me once if I would be sad when my parents died and I responded that I would be sad-- that I was not really that sad. He looked right at me and said that he sadly-- understood exactly what I meant. I think this was one place that he could let himself out to me a bit-- and of course anytime he did it would always be followed by a very nice D&D. Ahhhhh..... the memories, the memories.... Since that day I went and started to talk to somebody about my past hurts. I stopped after a while but lately? I'm thinking about going back.
Mar 24 - 9AM
passionatebutterfly
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I would be interested in that

I would be interested in that as well. Exn hates his mother (she is a bitch), and also his grandmother........didn't even go to her funeral. I remember his grandmother fondly. She was a cutie. I do believe the relationship a man has with his mother says a lot.....
Mar 24 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
kizzy72
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I agree

I cannot fathom hating your own parents. I had problems with mine but I never hated them. I loved them dearly. And what's ridiculous is, he says that up until two years ago he hated his mother, yet when he called me, he called me from HER home number because he lives with her and he's 44 years old. If you haven't read my story, I'm dealing (or delt with) an alcoholic who has been to prison two times for DUI's, has major debt, foreclosures, bankruptcy's and owes the IRS. But his brother is a celebrity, whom he always like to tell everyone that he wrote the lyrics for his songs And he's a former Marine *** rolling my eyes ****