He moved to another state

My exN moved to another state with his OW. I have been NC for 101 days (court ordered). I guess I feel like you have 3 children in one state but you up and jump to another state to move in with the OW with no thought of your children (well maybe just my one child I'm pretty sure he's still in contact with the other children's mother because she will go with anything he does or says). How selfish is that?? When I wanted us to move to another state which was only 2hrs away from where we were. He told me no that was not an option because he needed to be closer to his other children and that he is always going to live closer to his other children so just in case if something were to ever happened to them he wouldn't be far away.

Now I'm wondering what made him change his mind with this one because he's even farther than where I wanted to move. He's at least a ten hour drive away. Was it because the judge granted me a 3yr restraining order because of what HE did? Was it because he was actually loosing his place since he hasn't paid any rent in over a year and chose to move to another state with her so fast because that was his last an only option? Maybe manipulated her within the first two months they were together saying how much he was in love with her and how he found the one like he did me. I know I shouldn't care and it's none of my business but I just don't get it lol.

Now I hate to sound selfish with this but in a way I'm kind of glad (actually I'm happy) he's not in the same state because I do not have to worry about running into him or having him standing in front of my door because the other relationships didn't work out. I know eventually I'm going to have to talk to him and I'll cross that bridge when I get there but for right now it just feels so good not to be in contact with him. I don't have to worry about him cursing me out, calling me names, blaming all of his problems on me and just being a stressful person to me but on the other hand my child doesn't have her father but when I think about it it's not my fault he's the one that chose to move that far away. Plus I keep having dreams about him again.

When we broke up this last and final time I had 3 different dreams that if I were to get back with him I would be miserable and nothing would have changed and the dream seemed so real and I was very unhappy in the dream (that was during his hovering stage) then I had a dream that he got into some legal trouble and the last one was I saw darkness everywhere, everything was pitch black and then I saw his face and there was darkness all around him and it woke me up so fast that if felt like I had to catch my breath. Since then the dreams had stopped and I was so happy about that but now I'm starting to dream again. In the dreams I'm dreaming that he is having more kids and for some strange reason he eased his way back into my life AGAIN and I was miserable and I kept saying to him you still didn't change and he was still the same and I regretted going back and I woke up. I don't want to dream about him at all. Does anyone know what these dreams mean and if they have a meaning to them?