how accurate is this in describing your narc?
how accurate is this in describing your narc?
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html#relig
i found that this was really accurate in describing my narc.
some minor differences (which were accounted for in this article):
- my N wasn't stingy, but he probably was trying to impress me, but he was very generous with his money. he flew me to see him a couple of times. he took me out to nice restaurants. he was a terrible gift-giver though. and he also spent a ton when he would go out with other women (while still in a relationship with me). so i am pretty sure it was all for show, and for me, it was to keep me reigned in - although that was something i never asked for. i wanted small simple things to show that he loved and cared about me, and that he was considerate. i mean, he did forget my birthday 3 years in a row! i don't know how much money he actually had bc he was really private about that.
- my N wasn't as sensitive to personal criticism. as i fought back, he took my criticisms. but he couldn't change. he knew i was unhappy. sure he had rage and lashed back and called me abusive when i expressed my discontent with his actions, but he didn't seem as sensitive. in fact, i felt the opposite - the types of criticisms i started giving to him seemed to have no impact. like he was inhuman and immune. perhaps this is a sign of N anyway?
- abnormal eating habits - the description here was strange. but maybe you have had experience with your N eating weird things?
- hate to live alone. my N can actually be alone or live with a ton of people. it's strange. he didn't really have a preference and i never had a sense of what was preferable for him. I think this goes to his lack of boundaries...
the rest of the list was quite accurate though. and i found it helpful to read bc some things were so specific but relevant that it was eerie how similar my N is to the description.
either way, i thought i would share in case it was helpful to at least some of you. would love to hear your thoughts.
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Thank You
hahahaahahaha - this just
Dazed
eating habits
Eating habits
This pretty accurately
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mystwoman, actually my N had
You are absolutely correct,
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Superficiality
Mine was the victim. We were