How he got you to fall in love
How he got you to fall in love
Once we realise that the narc actually manipulated us to fall in love and what happened to us was not the stuff that fairy tales are made from we can begin to make really good progress in our healing .
There is nothing romantic in mind control and it isnt mystical , its a fairly crude and basic form of brainwashing .
Thats not to say what we felt wasnt love , it was , it was ours and we own it and that is what makes us beautiful amazing people as we have the ability to feel deep feelings that the narc can not even dream of , all the narc can do is use two bit con art to get his pathetic needs met .
The biggest clue you where dealing with a narc is the way they can instantly devaule you . They can be professing love for you and making plans one day and by the next they dont want to see you again . It is this one thing that singles out the narc from normal man . When this happens if we dont know we are dealing with a narc we can turn our selves inside out trying to find the answer of what we did wrong but the sicken truth is we didnt do anything wrong the love professed by our narc was never felt by him... This concept can take many months to sink in and it is so painful to grasp that in some ways it is easyer for our minds to keep blaming ourselves . I think we come to that understanding when we are ready too and it can be seriously helped along by reading about the subject over and over again ... you may even find you become an expert in the subject before you realy grasp the fact that they never loved us but it WILL click into place in time ..
I know i bang on about "love bombing" a lot but i realy think if it wasnt for initial honeymoon period of the relationship we wouldnt be here right now ... how dose someone who can not love convince us that they are head over heals crazy for us ? love bombing !.. http://undermuchgrace.blogspot.com/2008/05/beware-love-bomb.html
Big love Scoop xx
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Nice post Michele - Manipulation and Love Bombing
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