How many women can honestly say they didn't have a glitch in them
How many women can honestly say they didn't have a glitch in them
I ask this in a completely compassionate way. Because on my healing bloody slow journey I've come to realise that there was a glitch in me that made me want to stay with him. I know they can manipulate to socks off you BUT from my personal experience I often wondered after the break up there were times with him that I clearly should have left, but hung on. I didn't have the personal power to immediately say "I don't like how you're being so I don't want to be around you" end of.
And to be totally honest, my healing could have been done before I met him but I didn't see it so that's why I was susceptible to him. There was something in me that allowed him in, there was a glitch in me. Narc mother. I'm seeing it all now, and until I heal those wounds I know another narc will show up. I'm doing my healing now from childhood, at least being smashed to bits by him made me do this. So I did get something from him in the end, a massive lesson in my own stuff. Do you know what I mean? Is there any woman here that can honestly say they were totally strong in their relationships and boundaries as children, that they had the capability to say early on "I don't need your behaviour in my life so I'm out"? Did you have NO boundaries as a child? Were you in a place as a child were abuse or control happened and you couldn't stand up at that point and say, this is not acceptable. Because what I'm discovering is that I had none of this. Narc mother would do what she wanted and we all had to take it and pretend it didn't happen. I know this ignoring this made me somehow feel it was acceptable so for me, made me a sitting duck for a narc as an adult. I want to get to a place now, where I can stand up for myself in any kind of relationship and say on the lines of "you know what, I don't want to be around your abusive behaviour, it's not acceptable to me" so that I can exit out right there and then. No mulling over, just exit. Just wanted to know how many women here have an experience in childhood where they had to accept unacceptable behaviour by adults, because I think here lies the link to the narc. I'm also convinced if we don't heal this we will always accept narcs of some sort. Just putting it out.
the link between childhood
Anotherpath
This is a fantastic post
You cannot imagine how much
not daddy's girls
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My father
So true: So now I'm at the
Glitches
AnotherPath--the glitch in me
I completely agree re this
Aliveagain
anotherpath
really??
Boundaries
Nevergoback
YES... boundaries!
Family Of Origin
Definitely (((hugs))). My
I think everyone battles
My husband (prior to N/P
Peace. J