How Ns Erode Your Identity

The girlfriend: You nailed it how they exchange identities. My exH escalted to physical violence. It was calculated/premeditated. He scared me telling me his therapist "told him" to be violent projecting what he was thinking and planning to lay blame on the therapisst. He set me up so he could batter me into submission then tell people I abused him. Then he covered his tracks lying I am psychotic, don't remember assaulting him and I lie blaming others for my behavior. He sold himself as "so loving and concerned ...about me" maxing out what a great guy he was and so calm not upset I assaulted him. The violence including choking me was to control me to "own the behaviors" i.e. be an object in the pathalogical mirror. Mine probably was a psychopath for he accused others of what he thought, was planning and doing. I did contact his therapist alarmed what the exH told me. I learned the ex would lie again, deny he said what he said spinning I had "thought disorders" and I "make things up about people"..then say "see what I have to put up with"...?! I want to say it is terrifying when no one cares your spousse is battering much less the other abuses and only strangers care. I knew one day I could not keep going and stopped to contemplate my options. One thing I had not done to help or save my self and understood I was going to copletely break down, fall apart. I got myself to a hospital saying I was going to have a breakdown..When the ex showed up I fell aprt and needed intensive care. It was the best decision I made for myself to take care of me and be real and true. A couple of remaining friends understood. the ex changed their identity too that they are mentally ill and I preyed on them with lies to engage them. Anyone he did not con he destroyed to other people.