How to tell if your Mom is a Narc/Psychopath...especially if you keep attracting an N or PsycopathN...!

Hi Everyone,

I must say that this is beginning to be on my mind,,especially when trying to figure out why all the 'relationships' I have had seem to be with Psychopath or N guys...

It isn't funny...it is actually a serious thing,,last 3 1/2 yr "relationship" was with a PsychopathN (I put that in quotes because it was NOT a two way street with him...that is for sure..had to learn ALOT about that situation to heal and move on!!!) and NOW, beginning to wonder why this keeps happening.

I think back about my childhood, and wonder if this is 'normal' or not...and perhaps having a N mother could have had something to do with a seed being planted, that someone sends the Narc radar....before coming on this board had NO IDEA how I could be picked out of a crowd and pinpointed by such a predator type...anyway...

Here is a bit about my childhood, please tell me if you think this is normal, or could have been a part of all this journey into Narcville....

1. Very critical Mother. Critical, severely critical..from as young as I can remember..even from as young as age three....insulting me "your hair is like a rats nest" were her comments to me when washing my hair in the sink, and she couldn't get the tangles out (what am I suppose to do..I don't know how to wash my hair yet)...

2. Mother was abusive...hit, yanked, yelled, slammed doors, grabbed me so hard nail prints in my skin...made me bite soap...never any affection....made me feel 'strange' for wanting to talk and be friendly, happy. I never experienced that growing up...never mirrored me positive whatsoever

3. Would drink and watch TV moment she came home from work..would lay down, never look at me in the eyes...would stare off into tv and never talk...when I asked her about God, she wouldn't talk she said it was something personal..

4. Would laugh at me when I got hurt.

5. Would make me work around the house from the moment I got home from school..had to react to her yelling and order commands...was always in a state of fear, shame, sadness, embarrassment, afraid to have friends over.

I kinda feel like that behavior is like that of a Narc? It is like there was no love bombing though...

I still think that this formidable relationship somehow has an impact on how we develop, our self esteem, and the vibes we put out there that some how lead us to be attracted to Narc/Psychopath types...

I am also now beginning to believe...and though I know very much that I am an Empath, that the right guy, would be also the same, and Empath, or do we need someone to balance?

Peace and light..thank you :)))