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How your N embarass you?

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#1 Oct 8 - 11AM
Sea
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How your N embarass you?

My exN is an embarassment when we are out together.

1. He never fail to reject food, tells off service staff in restaurants. Some of his complains are downright rediculous! I have to keep apologising on his behalf. That was so awful!

2. He talks so loudly when he is suppose to be quiet. There was once he was publicly told to shutup at a concert or leave. Oh my his face was red and his rage in his eyes! Scary!

3. I hate shopping with him. He would pretend to be generous ask me to pick a necklace when i pick one he would ask the sales gal for a different one and pay for it! The strange behaviour never fail to shock the sales staff and embarass me.

4. He checks out other gals while with me. His roving eyes! So emarassing and demeaning to me!

Does your N embarass u?

Oct 9 - 1AM
ValiditySeeker
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Never ever left a decent tip

For our waiters. I'd tell him he should leave 15% or 20%, not just a dollar or two. (Groan!) He'd come up with a reason why she/he shouldn't get the full amount. Usually a lame, "Well, he wasn't very friendly." This from the coldest boy on earth. Once on a dance floor, a drunk couple accidentally bumped into us. They apologized profusely. Short Dick Man could not let that go. He dragged me across the dance floor, swearing he'd "get them back!" I was begging him to stop, saying it was a mistake, to let go of me. I was horrified. Of course, he's stronger than me so he pretty much dragged me across the floor where we reached the other couple and he "accidentally" nudged into them. When they turned around, we both apologized but I know they had to know it was intentional. What a fucking infant.
Oct 9 - 3AM (Reply to #11)
Sea
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Confrontation is what my exN

Confrontation is what my exN never have guts to do cos he isnt big. So I guess he is terrified! He is only good at bullying subordinates, waiters etc.
Oct 8 - 11PM
Amiee
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disturbing

It is crazy, but it sounds like we all dated the same man!! Could their behaviors be this much alike? When you wrote about him offiering then buying you things, making a big show, then acting put off about it. I could so relate! I didn't even realize that this wa one of his behaviors! Thanks for this forum!!! PS all the stuff he either gave or bought...in the trash totally gone
Oct 9 - 3AM (Reply to #9)
Sea
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Haha same guy different

Haha same guy different bodies!
Oct 9 - 2AM (Reply to #7)
outOFtheFOG13
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they all act the same because

they all act the same because they ARE all the same. empty. they are only 'SOMEONE' after they have sucked our energy from us. thats why they were attracted to us in the first place. they can go forward in life and pretend they are who WE are. they almost assume our identity for lack of a better term. but they can only go so far on that without us around so they have to come back to US to recharge. without us around them, they shrink back to the nothing they came from and they hate it. even when the narc has a new partner, he is coming back to you to get more of what you have to offer. he cannot sustain it by himself. they need us. i think if we got stuck here to begin with, it is because in us, the narc found an energy he has not encountered before. when they come back, it has nothing to do with missing us. they only miss the energy source.
Oct 9 - 3AM (Reply to #8)
Sea
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I rem I saw a profile info

I rem I saw a profile info page of exN from 10 yrs back it says he is a vegetarian!! Wow in the 5 years i knew him he is beef and pork chomper! More like 10 years bk he could be dating some vegetarian woman so he "transform" to be one! Then after he left he revert back!
Oct 8 - 10PM
Sea
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Thanks everyone for sharing.

Thanks everyone for sharing. The N are socially weird and all the while they dont realise it. Its also the sense of entitlement thinking the whole world should bow down and worship him. Leaving them also take away all these agonising embarassment. Why on earth we need to be embarassed like that? No thanks!! Narc boys can keep it we dont want to share!
Oct 8 - 9PM
heritage
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he did all of the above also.

he did all of the above also. He would acxt alln ice in the store picking things out for me and chatting with the clereks. He cahrmed them to pieces. Then after we left store he would get quiet. I always thanked him for buying me things but I always felt his resistance. I realized he never gave out of love so he really didn't want to give to me. It secretly made him angry and evenutally he took it out on me. He always checked out women. In malls, restaurants, sporting events, parties, etc. I hated it and I talked to him about his constant staring. My therapist said he did it to make me feel even more insecure. I always became uncomfortable. When we were out together I didn't notice anyone else. I didn't care. I was with the one I loved so I didn't have a need to graze. I can relate to everything here.
Oct 8 - 8PM
ifinallygotit
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super nice, friendly and polite in public

only mean behind closed doors if you wanted or needed something from him He was an old celeb with an image to maintain with the public downtown... He rarely took me anywhere - he preferred to go out for attention and NS I felt like his dog at home - I am not ugly, just not a Las Vegas show girl...
Oct 8 - 3PM
greengirl91
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I wasn`t "with him" in a

I wasn`t "with him" in a relationship, in fact I believe it was one of those after D&D - I-want-to-talk-to-you-again-but-it`s-too-occurd phases. It was like some event or gathering, where were many people, including me. And we were suppossed to be all of us in a picture. He comes out of the door, haven`t seen him for some time, you know, phases. My heart start racing like hell but I smile and try to be calm. He comes for the picture too. Then, suddenly when the picture is taken, he throws some bag with shoes, in my direction. And he popped down. Of course the pictures were totally messed up, and we had to take another round. BUT, then I felt like "WTF", I felt shame, I felt like sh*t. It was meant to be "FUNNY" he said after, and jus "happened" to throw it in my head and ruin the picture. You should see the expression on my face, in the next round. Yeah very f-u-n-n-y. Now when I think about it, maybe he did it on purpose, maybe not..maybe the atmosphere was too tense and something had to happen. And guess who lowered the guard?..Yes, me. I asked him out, for a drink with friends, music and guitars, to talk friendly. Of course we didn`t solve much, because the next time I saw him, he made a comment like "I had her one night", to piss me off, always to provoke a fight, an argument. They are not satisfied without provoking CHAOS, wherever they go.
Oct 8 - 2PM
Unfreakinreal
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All the time.

Was always arrogant towards servers and bartenders. Complained that a certain place we would go to didn't serve Coke products. He has been going there for years and complains to the person behind the counter. EVERY TIME. Only gets the drink specials when we are at a bar. When we were out for the Super Bowl, the free drinks didn't start until a certain time so he bought ONE BEER and we had to split it until the drinks were free. He was unbelievably cheap. Says things when we were out that he thought were funny but they never were. Most of the time it was an insult towards me. When he told me I seemed to like being out with him better when I was drinking, I didn't disagree... Arrogant pigs.