I have to ask...
I have to ask...
I've been pretty strong this week-- the last night we spent together was almost 2 weeks ago and I saw him for a second 4 days ago when he stopped by to drop off money he owed me (of course he was short some of it!). Anyway, as most of us do... I just keep replaying our relationship over and over and over in my mind. See, my exN was married "but separated"... I was convinced that his wife was this control freak who gave him an allowance, a curfew and had to know all the passwords to his email accounts. I thought, wow, what a nut she was. But, now... I wonder- did she do all that bc she had been suspicious of him all along? They were (still are) married for 16 years!!! She knew about me, but I have a feeling she was told it was a quick fling and it ended. She didn't realize that we have been seeing each other for 9 months. He told me they recently went to family counseling with their kids and the counselor asked if they were definitely getting divorced and my exN said he was shocked when she said that she wasn't sure. He said that he told her "Yes we are". Now, I'm thinking that he may be just stringing her along for NS when he wasn't getting it from me all this time. I know I sound like a fool and I am so embarrassed that I fell for his BS and put up with it. So, I'm thinking... if he was intent on leaving her for good (which he told me he 100% was and he wasn't in love with her and wasn't attracted to her, etc) why hasn't he filed? He said he wanted her to file bc he didn't want to look like the bad guy to his kids (omg, as I write this I am realizing what an idiot i've been to believe all his shit). I guess, I'm thinking if she is still under the impression that they have a chance, not knowing that he had a full fledged relationship with me the past 9 months, and now he's been on match.com for the past month... should i reach out and tell her, warn her? I know i'd look like i was trying to get revenge, but honestly... he is so sick and the thought of him manipulating anyone else sickens me. He TOLD me he cheated on her with 5 other women throughout their marriage... what a PIG!!!!! Do I send her a letter exposing him or let it rest? This forum makes me feel like women need to stick together and I know that I'd want to know... but I need your advice. Thanks~
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