I need to talk I feel like Im a dumping ground for every manipulative narcy person. why

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#1 Feb 21 - 4PM
fooled no longer
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I need to talk I feel like Im a dumping ground for every manipulative narcy person. why

In the time since I shared my situation with family and friends, people have dumped on me non stop and I just got taken advantage of by a friend who came to stay.
This is seriously affecting my self esteem.
What is going on. Im struggling enough. I wish i had told noone except you Guys on the board. but i shared this on the advice.

I wish I had kept it inside, people just use your situation against you.
Im too shocked to be sad tonight Im frozen. Maybe Im in the wrong place at the wrong time, what am I supposed to learn ??
please help.

Feb 21 - 7PM
jen79
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fooled no longer

I am sorry you feel that way, I guess many of us had to go through that too. I had to. Realizing that people start to change around you when you share all this stuff with them, they start to control you, seeing you as weak, taking advantage of you, walk all over you, or pushing you around. Its very sad, you will see the evil face of everyone around you, when you have to go through the darkness. Its a good test, and time to clean it all up. I lost a lot of friends through that, but I better be alone than having dysfuncional friends. Hugs
Feb 21 - 5PM
Hunter
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FNL

You need to find inner strength, people won't understand so save the situation for us! Gloom and doom gets tiring after a while! How is NC going?
Feb 21 - 5PM (Reply to #5)
fooled no longer
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its really tough, im living

its really tough, im living in a foreign country, no therapist. I just got taken advantage of by a friend who came to stay with me, she told the most fantastic lies about what her visit here had entailed to her husband. Of course this is all so hard for them to to believe that once again they call me the crazy one! I feel I wish I had not shared at all. Im like a naked pink lobster and everyones coming for a bite. Its crazy I am being attacked by all sides, no wonder people prefer denial !!!!!
Feb 21 - 4PM
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Im really regretting i shared

Im really regretting i shared this situation with anyone. They say why did you tell me. But when I kept it under my hat they said I wish you had told me earlier. I feel im being manipulated on top of all the trauma ive been through. It sucks.
Feb 21 - 4PM
victimnomore
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I know it sucks but look at it this way, at least you are able to spot a narc now . Now you have the opportunity to practice you boundaries! Hang in there! You will get through this too.

victimnomore

Feb 21 - 4PM
whskywmn5
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Im sorry fooled that you are

Im sorry fooled that you are having such a hard time of it, Im pretty new here to the board, and to all this in general just now realizing the mess that I have made of my life by falling in love with a N. I havent told any of my family and friends about my situation.....I know some will say I should but I just cant bring myself to burden my parents at their ages with this...and I know to tell any other family member would be just as if I told them myself....they would break there neck to share the news. Unless people are in this situation I dont believe they can understand the depth of our feelings or what we have endured. To them a few words that they might say to us, could be for them not a big deal, but for someone struggling it can be major. Your family members maybe struggling in there own way, in trying to find the right thing to say to you, and just dont know how. As for the friend that took advantage of you, truth be told they werent really much of a friend were they.