I went to a lawyer today.....need opinions!!

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#1 Jun 8 - 5PM
joyvbfla
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I went to a lawyer today.....need opinions!!

Well, I had to respond to his summons that he served me for divorce (I got divorce papers at work on 5/22) by today or Monday. I was very worried to just default on the whole thing and not give a response, so I went to a lawyer today. Even though it has only been about 2 years that we have been married, the lawyer I talked to today that I have a good chance of having some things awarded to me and also to have him help pay part of my medical bills debt (since I had surgery in February.....I had to come up with money for a retainer, but I did decide to go ahead and hire the lawyer and have him send the response today.
I am really having alot of anxiety about if he gets mad what he may do. I can't imagine he would want to get himself in any trouble by even speaking to me.
I almost feel bad for him (NOT.....JUST KIDDING!!!) as now he has a court case pending with wife #1 for child support, alimony and she also believes he was hiding funds when they got divorced in April, 2010....so they have been in mediation/court. Now he has wife #2 responding with wanting to dig a little deeper and splint the marital assest and debts since we got married. I know he thought that I would just let it default and he would sit back and wait for the divorce to go through, but I at least wanted to talk to the lawyer and see where it stands.
I was surprised that BY LAW......there are certain things he owes me.
Well, it has already been done.....I paid him half the retainer (I had to use 3 different credit cards) and promised I would pay the rest by the end of next week
It is somewhat of a risk, but I have tried to contact him several times by VM and text to tell him that all I wanted was my stuff I had at his house and the money I have spent on health insurance for him and his kids. It was all close to $5,000 and right now I am really hurting for money!!
I wonder how he will get his court dates straight at this point from wife #1 and wife #2....he also was in court a few weeks ago as ex-girlfriend from 5 years ago filed a restraining order. I guess he is just not having a good year.....and it is only half over!!!
Any opinions??? I think I did the right thing....it would be stupid to go into any court case without a lawyer and this guy today seemed to think I had a pretty good chance at getting some money that he said I am entitled too!!
Well, also, if there was ANY QUESTION at all as to if he would ever call me again, or I would go back with him....that has been resolved today. I can 100% guarantee (or at least 99.9999%) that he will never speak to me again.
I have been feeling better and better every day.....getting stronger and sick of taking his bullshit anymore!! I have spent soooooo much money on him, his kids, moving expenses, etc, etc, etc....it has just about bankrupted me, so I should at least get what is fair!!
I really did not want to be mean at all......my only other option was to either write a response on a piece of paper to the court, or just default and send nothing (I have been told by many people that is NOT smart to do, he could take me for everything in that case!!)
Well..........GOOD BYE NARC/PYSCHO......I guess in some ways, what comes around goes around and he is getting it from all sides!!

Jun 8 - 9PM
janemarie
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Keep your Guard up!!!!!

Jun 8 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
joyvbfla
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That is for sure.....

Jun 9 - 8AM (Reply to #7)
janemarie
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I dont know about you but I

Jun 8 - 7PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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joyvbfla

Jun 8 - 6PM
Deidre99
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There is karma. ;) Good for

Jun 8 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
bluegirl
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I was willing to walk away

Jun 8 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
joyvbfla
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that is exactly what happened.....