I get to act like a bad ass. I get to call him a mo fo. I get to act like Im all in control...
BUT
Im really not Im still that little 22 year old girl who went thru 4 almost 5 years of hell only to have it happen to her again at age 42. This man has made appearances in my life since age 17. Hopefully this was the last but somehow I dont think so...
I wish this site was private so we could all post our pics. I would like to know what everyone looks like! Im a visual person
He sounds like a real sicko. Mine treated me like a girl friend the problem was he couldnt have just one girl friend. I mean I was the main one but ladies were always hovering. I cant say I blame them. He is very good looking and he led them on. So I dont blame them anymore. Im just pissed at myself having allowed him back into my heart 15 years later and my gut told me hes gonna do it to you again and he did. This man has made appearances in my life since age 17 and Im now 42. So there is some history there. Oh and trust me he used that to his advantage. It just so sad that someone I have so much personal history with feels compelled to treat me badly. I do realize though its illness he has no capacity to love me like normal people do. Even when he has been unbelievably cruel to me. He maintains that he will always love me and I think in his sick little mind he does. Its just not the way we do. The hard part is accepting that. Accepting that they are broken and you cant fix them. They have illness there is no cure. They are not gonna get better. They just arent. You'll never be able to love them enough and make them better. So sad
and you have all of us behind you for those moments when you feel vulnerable and sad. Thank god for this site-seriously.
I mean wtf- 2 years ago all was well and my life was flowing along.
Along comes "Mr. I Tried to Destroy You Once" after 15 years of absence and we are down the road almost 2 years later and I feel completely blindsided and a bit of fricken mess.
Need to find my bad ass self! She is here (sometimes) and others I just want to cry. Atleast I have you ladies (and bloke) to talk to.
Mine also blindsided me after 15 years! What's with 1995???? And how can they inflict damage so long after the fact? I shoulda said no to the FB friend request.... Stay strong ladies
You don't live in NY, NY do you?
FB is a godsend to these Ns - an easy way to reconnect with their supply. After ending our engagement 6 months ago, my exN got on FB and reconnected with three of his past GFs. I think that one of them (the one in NY) was led to believe when they were together before that he was more serious with her than he was. Well, at least that was HIS story over the years. Knowing what I know now, that could very well have been a big fat lie - or more accurately, his disordered way of seeing the situation.
There's nothing normal about reconnecting with an ex just weeks after ending an 8-yr relationship with someone else. If you really loved a person that you were engaged to, shouldn't there be a period of grieving and getting over someone before you're so quick to reconnect with an old GF? RED FLAG!!
Man that really hurt and thank God I can put it in the right perspective (from joining this group)!
Mine got engaged 3 months after we broke up. These guys have a tendency to overlap and with a little checking I found out that was accurate. He was seeing her even before we broke up. That's a pattern with mine. Did it to his wife to. I should have known better but he had me completely snowed!
My pic is up and I dont give a shit who sees it....i went thru hell and too bad if someone saw that I was on here and talking about the perverted asshole who tried to ruin my life..the story I shared on here was about my latest romeo N that I dated from april til june,u know the guy who swoops in,does everything in his power to get u,only to dump u w no explanation.....the one I refer to most I havent shared that story yet.....it's pretty bad and hard for me to relive...but,i will share it all in the next few weeks....:)
and the bonus is..
sick of it,,,,,pic aceonelady
Aceonelady
I looked
hi sick.....share your story....i found
Aceonelady
Wow!
sick of it-you are a bad ass
Wtf
It was 1996 for me...
Yeah....1995 WTF???
Outof the blue
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Terri
I freakin LOVE IT!
your too funny sick of
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
Can I join you?
haha I agree sick of it
My pic is up and I dont give