I'm so struggling...
I'm so struggling...
I'm beyond frustrated with myself right now. Two weeks ago, i was doing REALLY REALLY GOOD! It was a RELIEF to feel so confident in what he was, believing that he'll never change and that whatever is going on with his new wife, well he'll do it to her too and then I made a mental list of ALL the things I'm grateful for that I no longer have to deal with and that she WILL.
Then the FUCKING Phone calls started. I'm sorry I'm not a big cusser, but I'm so DAMNED angry about it! I don't even know for sure if it was him, but when this "person" whose been calling and a pattern was developing, hung upon on my son, it wasn't hard to guess. The calls started about a month ago, and abruptly stopped last Wednesday. I'm relieved that there aren't anymore coming! But putting myself back together again has been a nightmare! I can't sleep at night with my head whirling about WHY he would be doing this to me! I"M SO FUCKING ANGRY! I want this bastard OUT of my head!!! He's not worth all of this thought process.
I have to deal with an upcoming trigger in a couple of days. I have to deal with someone from his work who knows he and I. I am NOT looking forward to this and there is no way I can get out of it because I remain a client where he works. DAMMIT!
What can I do to push myself forward here? Why have I lost all my conviction? WHY would he do this to me? I want to PUNCH the little bastard! I want PEACE in my life. I've spent the ENTIRE week ruminating, obsessing and not sleeping, back to square one. I've maintained my NC and as soon as the first of the month hits, my phone number is changing. I'm starting back to school to finish my degree on Monday and my daughter and I are joining a gym nearby in a couple of weeks. This is HELL for me. The next few months will be so painful. I'm out of this nine months now, it will be a laundry list of firsts without him, my birthday coming up, thanksgiving, Christmas..I just DON'T want to go there anymore. I'm SO TIRED and frustrated I've been crying a lot. I want so much just to be HAPPY. And before those fucking calls came and before I KNEW I was going to have to deal with someone from his work, I was doing great.
It is amazing to me how just BARELY any contact, including when you DON"T talk to them, just absolutely annihilates. I'm so sick of it. I want this to be over.
Do you have any suggestions for me? ANYTHING? I'm so hoping that school and especially joining the gym and working out more is going to help a lot! Have any of you noticed that working out helps you? HELP!
Sunafterrain
Thank you!
Working out....
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lily
Hang in there,
I'm so sorry that your are
Sparrow
Please, try to be patient
Winter
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