"I'm Sorry You Feel That Way"

And this coming from someone who is NOT my ex. If there is one phrase that sets me off instantly, it's that one. This is the most passive-aggressive, insincere non-apology one can possibly extend.

I'm kind of proud of myself for drawing a line in the sand, as this is a "friend" who said this to me. He was supposed to go pick my son's bed up from a family member's house for me...and I had also lent this friend a $250 aero bed that was brand new, never opened, in the box....for a couple of days while he was hosting a weekend party at his home. That was 5 months ago. To make matters worse, his wife lent MY bed to her family members over Christmas...WTF! I was already pissed off about this but then.....

I keep getting the "good enough for you" obligatory "sorry, I'm so busy right now" empty promises and this week I finally had enough of it. I've been sleeping on a couch for 2 months, my son has been using my bed and my other two are scattered all over the suburbs in other people's homes right now.

I told him that I would be by to pick up my aero bed and that I would make other arrangements for my son's bed. That's when the non-apology ensued, mixed with attitude and blame-shifting.

My final pm to him went as follows:

"I will come and get the air mattress tonight. Arrangements have already been made (repeating for the 3rd time) regarding my son's bed. It is not the bed I'm upset about, I think you know that. I don't like having not only my intelligence, but my integrity insulted by being fed a line of b.s. over and over again. Not to mention, how much of a flake I look like to my family when they've been told how many times that you'd be by on a certain date and you're a no-show? I'm glad to hear you're "sorry I feel this way"...but you don't need to take responsibility for my feelings, only your actions. That would be a good place to start."

He went completely ballistic - I mean, blaming me for him yelling at his wife over loaning my air mattress out, recounting in detail every thing he has ever done for me, etc. It was unreal. And I'm now disengaged from it.