Is it right to date before you have divorced the narc. I'm guessing not...
Is it right to date before you have divorced the narc. I'm guessing not...
Is it even legal???
I wonder what ur thoughst are??? I have been split for 18 months. longer if you count sleeping in seperate roooms but you probably dont. (I do fit in to the 18 month rule as set out by those who went before... ;-0)
But Breisis made me realise that its probably not a good idea, if you are still feeling messed up this long after... (after all its NOT 18 mnths of NC is It!!!!!) to date guys at all in any sense until the dust has settled...
But what happens when you meet someone who seems nice and seems genuine.
And you feel attracted to them and it seems different... cos you have learned that 'nice' men are more attractive than clever articulate hyper-thinker type men!!!
(THO...I mean... they all seem pretty nice and genuine from the outset dont they???)
Do you just flip em aside and say I am not ready. I need to know myself more...
YOu prob shud right!?
Or do you suck it and see.. the theory that is?
I mean when do you become qualified to see the red flags and move on it like a panther (or out of it anyway) ...
And what if there are no red flags and he really is a good genuine guy.
DO you risk messing with his world with your shitty entagnled life of debt and kids and ex's....weird mental head case NARC ex's at best too...
What do you guys think?
Am I confused rigth now.
I am so lonley, ive picked up a few guys while drunk and regretted it till I was ill with worry about it. I learned the hard way how not to do it and after all these guys were loosers who weren't lookign for nothing more than a F...
What if you meet someone who genuinly want's to 'date' you... 'court you' and you really are NOT ready? Would you miss out on chances of happiness becasue its not the right time???
Its worrying me not to know the answer to this in my own head.
I am pretty strong 90% of the time. IN MYSELF. I do martaial arts, work in a hard job, raise a child, get on with the other steiner mums etc...
I feel that I knwo myself better now than I have ever done before.. I am gettign older and I want more children and to create a loving home with a man...
Is that so wrong to want that just now....
Pls pipe up ladies...
I can take it...
It sounds like you have much
ditto, better off, excellent
almostlydia
yes I see... My narc husband
Oh! Okay, well I was reading
Yea think sometimes I am not
Good Girl!
who eats and whose dates
Its is recommended that we
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
also, if he is the right man
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
for me...
~~~ Keep Learning & Keep Healing ~~~
~~~~~ The best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you don't give them.
Why not just take it
Breseis....Thanks for this..
Its tricky....
No you shouldnt get balsted.