jackyb's story

I am a 36 year old woman from Melbourne, Australia. I have recently been living down south in Hobart, Tasmania. This is where I met my latest boyfriend of the last 4 months.. I should have listened to the warning signs. He had only been separated from his wife of 17 years for a week when he came knocking on my door. I was lonely and vulnerable and he literally sweeped me off my feet for the first six weeks. I realize now the most elated he became was when he was receiving his narcicistic supply like sex,food,adoration etc..Other times he was merely indifferent. Then everything started to change. He monopolised converations and would talk at me rather than to me. When I pulled him up on it ;he said I should love him just the way he is.I couldnt get any work and was becoming more reliant on him emotionally. At first there were just small things like his sugggestion of things I change about my appearance. He was also very critical of others. He was extremely wary of people like my psychiatrist, best friend or sister and their influence on me. He was overly concerned about what people like my famous father thought of him. He would ask me how much he thought I would inherit when he passed away.He would barely acknowledge his own family and when I started to spend more time interstate from him,his manner and behaviour over the phone was cold and distant. While I was with him, he was stood down from his job. He made a lot of excuses and got the right people involved to ensure the biggest pay off. He was not accountable for any of the points they raised for his dismissal.He was the King of turning things around to make you feel that you had done something wrong.The hardest part was the lack of empathy. The times I would leave him;crying my eyes out;he would look blankly in the distance and pat me like a dog.He expected alot of help and attention but barely reciprocated. He had an enormous sense of entitlement.He had borrowed a lot of money from his previous partners parents and merely mocked them behind their backs and tried to get out of paying them as much as they were owed. Scarily he was wonderful with animals and said he preferred them to people. He had few friends and claimed he preferred the company of women to men.These attributes were remarkably like that of my last boyfriend. He would prey on my jealous nature by making comments about other women. I think you've got the idea. He has followed me interstate to assume some kind of fantasy life where he has lots of friends and is popular.Ive told him he is no longer welcome to stay with me as planned. Ive suggested that he is a Narcicist and he is says he is willing to go into Therapy... I dont think he realizes the seriousness of the situation and thinks he can win me back with his blue eyes and winning smile. I'm sick of feeling anxious. I really fell again hook line and sinker. Be aware of any supposed Prince Charming who knocks at your door. He is not always what he seems. The worst part is he is now giving me the silent treatment and I dont know where or how he will pop up next. My narcicist ex still sends me texts 4 years later.... (even after I changed my number)