Link for friends?

A friend is suggesting that I not demonize my ex, to focus on the good times that we shared and all we had in common, that we are both good people and it just didn't work out. She doesn't understand about narcissism, and I suppose because he didn't beat me, the concept of emotional rape is quite alien to her. I think she sees this as just one of those things that didn't work out, just another breakup.

Can anyone recommend a good link for friends and family of people who have been through the ordeal of being involved with an N, that I could send to her? I'll try to explain myself but it would be useful to provide some backup information.

Thanks

~~Ophelia