"Love junkies"

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#1 Nov 18 - 9PM
dulcinea441
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"Love junkies"

I was just e-mailed this passage from Elizabeth Gilbert's "Eat, Pray, Love," a book I've never read -- but man, it rings true, doesn't it? Just a reminder that so many have been where we are and find their way to the other side AND a richer, happier life.

“I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with the hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore-- despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free).

"Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have 'that thing' even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you're someone he's never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is, you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You're a pathetic mess, unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that's it. You have now reached infatuation's final destination-- the complete and merciless devaluation of self."

Nov 20 - 8AM
wannaletgo22
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love junkies

Wow- I read that book a few years ago, don't recall that passage, but boy does it ring true now. Thanks for posting!
Nov 19 - 10AM
lillymarch
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So true! And so sad...

So true! And so sad...
Nov 19 - 12AM
brinamarie
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WOW. amazing. all i can

WOW. amazing. all i can say...
Nov 18 - 10PM
Sea
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Saw that book in the book

Saw that book in the book store might buy it for weekend read. Addicts yes! Took me a while to admit i was addicted to ex narcky. It wasnt love cos it doesnt have any anchor, consistency, substance at all. It was just in the moment high. No diff from taking drugs. After the drug effect wears off there's nothing left! NOTHING! And i would go take that drug again. I need more and more to get the same effect and each timr it wears off i became more and more desperate. Vicious cycle. Only way to break it is cold turkey - NC
Nov 18 - 9PM
greengirl91
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YES, I`m a proud member of

YES, I`m a proud member of the "Love Junkies" Club, lol!! I was laughing loong ago with some other "addicts" that I might as well, OWN it, fr all the depths I have gone into, chasing "the emotional high"! Haven`t read "Eat, pray, love" but heard it`s wonderful, especially for a new healthy beginning. It`s on the list :) There`s even a movie, with Julia Roberts after the book.
Nov 19 - 1AM (Reply to #2)
faith_
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I'm raising my hand too,

I'm raising my hand too, along with the control issues. And not having seen and grasped the reality of the situation. Always wanting it to be different, to be Good. To make sense, and just BE (instead of chasing, chasing). Oh well, that didn't happen. Just temporary highs, (anxiety) excitement...Time to start working at the stability and constancy myself. Boy have I constantly put myself at his mercy.