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Jun 24 - 9PM (Reply to #18)
Barbara (not verified)
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neveragain

WWLP is available on my abuse site (see URL below) - deeply discounted. Look on the left hand margin and scroll down a bit - then just click on the picture of the book or the link at the bottom. It's from a different source than Amazon. Get it - and read it - ASAP. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 24 - 5PM
neverdownforthecount (not verified)
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just making sure...

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Jun 20 - 1PM
Carolyn
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That's a very true

That's a very true happening. My cat disappeared. I had my car key scratched. they just want you to know they know who you are and where you are. they deny it of course but it does stop when they drift off to some other victim. Whe that victim throws them out they might drift back to you for a bit but then they are off on their 'quest'. weird e-mails, hang-ups on your phone, its all their mind game contacts. in this stage they are also out there lying about all the terrible things you did to them. It isn't fun but it is part of the seperation that many women experience. Be sure to tell him that you are very insulted that so many people think you weren't good enough for him. that sends them on their 'quest' faster. it also gives you something to chuckle about for the rest of your life.
Jun 19 - 11PM
Barbara (not verified)
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amy

get his license plate number tell the police about his drive bys tell them it was a bad break up and you're scared let them handle it. DO IT. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 19 - 11PM (Reply to #7)
Amy
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You think?

I mean... He was NEVER violent. More of a control freak. You guys have more experience with this. So you think so? Amy
Jun 26 - 8AM (Reply to #12)
Marie
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You think? Amy

Don't ever let your guard down no matter what. With all the stories I've read I'm just not a trusting person when it comes to my safety. I may have let my guard down enough to let someone into my heart but after being in an abusive relationship before this one that became physically violent I pretty much bolt when red flags start appearing. I don't doubt for an instant now that his wife's hamster met an unfortunate demise was a coincidence. He might never have been violent as you say but that doesn't mean he's not capable. There are serial killers/rapists that have wives and kids. Have you heard of the BTK killer? Read his story it's very scary. Not saying your guy is at that level but don't take your safety for granted.
Jun 20 - 12AM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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NEVER EVER ASSUME

Scott Peterson was never violent until he killed Lacey. NEVER EVER ASSUME THEY WON'T BE VIOLENT. IT WILL BE THE LAST BAD ASSUMPTION YOU EVER MAKE.
Jun 20 - 12AM (Reply to #10)
grossot
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Barbara What about during

Barbara What about during and after a divorce? I mean he's never laid a hand on me (raised his fist but that's all). But he's more mad than ever seen him before Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet; for everyone is fighting some kind of battle - anonymous- :o) nolongercontrolled
Jun 20 - 12AM (Reply to #11)
Barbara (not verified)
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grossot

you will always feel like PROPERTY to him - before during and after. I swore my exNH would never hit me. But he did. http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/16/my-story ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 20 - 12AM (Reply to #9)
Amy
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Good point...

I live in Texas and was thinking of getting a concealed handgun license. Not because of him, just because I thought it may be a good idea.... Yeah... Gotta catch him doing it. Don't know his plate numbers. (2 vehicles). Amy
Jun 19 - 11PM
Amy
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Yes

Yes. We live a mile apart from each other. He drives by my house all the time to see if a guy's car is here. I, on the other hand, take the long way so I don't even approach his area of the neighborhood.
Jun 26 - 8AM (Reply to #5)
Marie
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Yes-Amy

I do the same. I go out of my way to keep out of his way even if it takes me longer.
Jun 19 - 11PM
Barbara (not verified)
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being watched

narcs and psychopaths are NOTORIOUS for stalking, lurking, checking up on you, etc. report him to police if/when you catch him. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 20 - 12AM (Reply to #3)
malloryforest
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being watched

would not be surprised if he is checking up on you. Mine lives in another state but still has ways of checking up on me, through friends, phone messages, emails. I don't read all of them unless they are addressed to kids. He uses kids to figure out what I am up to. I agree with Barbara. If you do find him snooping around your space, not respecting your space, I would report it to the police.
Jun 19 - 10PM
finallydone
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Yes. I can't get to all

Yes. I can't get to all the way No Contact yet... but given all this time leading up to him being gone for good.... he will be gone for several days to a week at a time. So I decide to implement Barbara's advice for at least short periods... and it does actually work. But everytime I start to relax... I'll get this feeling that he's somewhere working it up... and then the texts and e-mails come. So in a sense I know what you mean.